Communication and Conflict
A friend has borrowed something from you and hasn't given it back. What can you do?
Talk to him, Use I-statements, share your feelings
You and mom disagree on picking up a mess. Act out how you can handle this in a safe and calm manner.
Negotiate, share feelings, think of options
How might you feel if someone accidentally messes up your project in class?
Frustrated, angry, mad, calm
Name two ways to calm down when you feel angry or frustrated
Take deep breaths, go for a walk, wall pushups, squeeze something
Progressive muscle relaxation
Squeeze a lemon, stretch like a cat, hide in turtle shell
Your mom has a new toy/game that you really like. You ask to see it and she says no. What can you do?
Find another toy/game, talk it out, use I-statements
You get into an argument with a classmate. Act out how you can take care of this in a safe way.
Use I-statements, ignore, walk away, deep breaths, ask teacher for help.
Name 6 emotions
angry, sad, frustrated, annoyed, happy, excited, embarrassed, silly, tired, hungry, lonely, shy, ecstatic, upset, disappointed
True or false: Writing, drawing, coloring, painting, and playing are healthy ways to deal with strong emotions
True
Practice a breathing strategy
Lazy 8, stuffed animal, sphere, bubble
Someone in class wants to be your partner for a project. You don't want to work with them. What can you say?
Share how you feel assertively and respectfully, help them find a different partner
Your mom asks your to clean your room and you don't feel like doing it. Act out how you would handle this in a calm manner. What would help if you need to do it?
Use I-statements, share feelings, negotiate. Use coping skills to calm self down to be able to complete the task.
Show me what anger looks like for you
Identify body sensations, scale, thoughts
Grounding exercise
5, 4, 3, 2, 1; mindful meditation
Joe wants to get his point across in an argument, so he yells and gets in their personal space. What communication style is he using?
Aggressive communication
You're feeling frustrated and want to throw something. What else can you do? Act it out.
Share feelings, take deep breaths, walk away, tell an adult
True or false: how we feel always determines how we should act
False: feelings are a powerful influence, but acting on them impulsively isn't necessarily a healthy thing. For example, being frustrated while driving is a valid feeling, but it's unproductive and unsafe to act on that frustration with road rage.
You notice your friend is feeling sad and he asks you what he should do. What do you say/do?
Talk to them, draw about it, play, talk to an adult
State a positive affirmation to give yourself if you are stressed
Example: "I am strong, I can get through this"
You want to get pepperoni pizza, while your friend wants to get mushroom pizza. You end up getting cheese pizza, which both of you are okay with. What type of conflict resolution style is this?
Compromising
You are excited about a new book and want to share about it to your family, but they are currently busy. Act out how you can handle this calmly.
Use coping kills to help self be patient- breathing, distract yourself. Ask when they will be available or ready to listen to you.
What happens to our brains when our emotions get out of control?
Flip our lid, emotion brain takes over and thinking brain takes a break
Why are coping skills helpful?
They help to get better control of our emotions, so you can make healthy decisions, healthy for our brain
Practice self-advocacy
Request something that you feel like you need (bathroom break, extra time on the question, etc)