It's All in the Cues/Friendship Recipe
Name 3 ingredients that create a friendship soup
Respect
Trust
Support
Empathy
Listening
Kindness
What does a counselor do?
A counselor is someone who helps people with their feelings, problems, and friendships so they can feel safe, happy, and ready to learn at school.
They listen, give support, and teach skills like how to solve problems, manage emotions, and get along with others.
What is conflict?
Conflict is a disagreement or argument between people who have different opinions or ideas.
Why should we be kind to others?
We should be kind to others because it makes people feel happy, safe, and valued — and it helps us make friends and create a better world around us.
Kindness spreads! When you’re kind, others often pass it on. (Ripple effect)
What is screen time?
Screen time is the amount of time you spend looking at screens, like on a phone, computer, TV, or tablet.
Quantity of friends or quality?
Quality!
What is a consequence?
A consequence is what happens after you do something — it can be good or bad, depending on your choice.
List 3 consequences from conflict
- Hurt feelings
- Broken friendships
- Feeling upset or sad
- Trouble concentrating in class
- Getting into trouble with teachers or parents
List 3 ways you can show kindness to someone else
Be helpful
Share
Listen
Be patient
Show respect
Offer a compliment
List 2 consequences of screen time
- Sleep problems
- Trouble concentrating
- Less time with family and friends
- Strained eyes and bad posture
- Exposure to unsafe situations
What are nonverbal cues?
Nonverbal cues are the ways we communicate without speaking — using our body, face, eyes, and voice tone to show how we feel or what we mean.
Stop and think – Take a moment before you decide.
Know your choices – What are your options?
Think about the consequences – What might happen next for each choice?
Make the best choice – Pick the one that’s safe, kind, and responsible.
You can also ask yourself: “What would a trusted adult say?”
What is an I-message?
An I-message is a kind and respectful way to say how you feel and why — without hurting anyone’s feelings.
It helps solve problems and stop conflicts.
1. I feel
2. When
3. Because
4. What I need is
What does perspective mean?
Perspective is the particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.
How much screen time is healthy to have in your age? Daily
No more than 2 hours a day!
List 3 types of nonverbal cues
Facial Expressions
Eye Contact
Gestures
Posture
Body Movement
Touch
What does your "inner light" mean?
Our inner light is what makes us feel good, hopeful, and happy. It's what helps us feel positive about the future.
Name 2 tools from the conflict resolution toolbox
- See saw – Take turns
- Clown nose – use sense of humor
- Bandage – apologize
- Puzzle – find solutions
-Earmuffs – ignore
- Pizza - sharing
What is positive thinking? How does it affect me?
Positive thinking is focusing on good things and looking at challenges as opportunities instead of problems. It affects your feelings and behavior.
What do the "S" and "M" stand for in the SMART rules for screen time
🟢 S – Set Limits (Too much time on screens can harm sleep, grades, and focus.)
🟢 M – Make Good Choices (Avoid inappropriate games, scary videos, or strangers.)
Is communication 55% spoken words, how we communicate, or body language?
Body Language
What can help you brighten your inner light?
Spending time with family and friends, playing your favorite game, reading a good book, or being outside in nature can help make you feel better.
Name 3 stress management techniques
- Deep breathing
- Positive self-talk
- Physical Activity
- Talking to someone
- Nature
- Doing something you like
- Creative Outlets
- Grounding techniques
- Lemon Tree
List 2 ways you can increase positive behavior and thinking
· Create Good Habits
· Believe in Yourself
· Remember Your Wins
· Learn from Mistakes
· Be Around Positive People
· Keep Trying
What do the "A" "R" "T" stand for the in the SMART rules for screen time
🟢 A – Ask for Help (If something feels wrong, talk to a trusted adult.)
🟢 R – Respect Yourself & Others (No cyberbullying, be kind online.)
🟢 T – Think Before You Click (Don’t share personal info, avoid suspicious links.)