Dealing With Anger
If a couple's biggest conflict is one partner watching the next episode of a show without the other, can trust ever be rebuilt?
NO
According to this Lady Gaga quote, if your partner takes out the trash and you respond with: "Talented. Brilliant. Incredible. Amazing. Showstopping. Spectacular. Never the same. Totally Unique. Completely not ever been done before..." The type of reinforcement being used is this
Positive Reinforcement
The moral dilemma that occurs when a therapist must choose between revealing a secret and maintaining confidentiality after one partner shares private information apart from couples therapy.
Split the difference
This counseling technique teaches clients to describe the exact action that bothers them instead of using general accusations like “you never” or “you always.”
Reporting the Specific Behavior
Instead of screaming at your partner, "THAT'S MY OPINION!" like on the Real Housewives of Orange County, a counselor operating under this model might suggest pausing and trying to understand your partner's feelings first before being defensive
Behaviour Change Model (BCT)
Two reasons when couples may join therapy
Edge of ending, regaining intimacy, unsalvageable, splitting ways in a collaborative manner
If one partner says "I'm fine", what does that actually mean in couples counselling terms?
Stonewalling
This humanistic counseling skill involves understanding a client’s feelings and perspective while communicating that understanding back to them.
Empathy
When a therapist is helping a client break an unhealthy behaviour, they must consider this paradoxical technique that involves...
The four destructive interactions that Gottman observed?
Criticism, stonewalling, defensiveness and contempt
Behavioral and cognitive approaches to couples counseling focus on modifying these patterns within relationships.
Maladaptive Behaviors
Ethical guidelines state that counselors should not try to force couples to stay together but instead respect this client principle.
Client Autonomy
This post-conflict interaction identified in relationship research involves partners repairing emotional damage after a fight.
Repair Attempt
This counselling process involves redefining a client’s problem in a new way that makes it more manageable or solvable.
Reframing
Even if a couple separates, counselors aim to help partners learn skills that will improve this in future relationships.
Communication Skills