Week #1 -Wifestyle
What are the FOUR responsibilities of a WIFE?
1. Helper/Teammate
2. Respect Him
3. Love Your Husband
4. Submit to his Leadership
This U is used in an acronymn for an emotional intelligence tool.
U- Understanding the causes and consequences of emotions
What is RULER?
R- Recognize emotions
U- Understanding the causes and consequences of emotions
L- Labeling our emotions with words
E- Expressing our emotions well
R- Regulating and being in control of our emotions
These three are apart of which part of conflict?
Pushes our relationships to GrowPrompts us to create new systems
Push us our of our comfort zone
What are the positives to conflict?
When you think of intimacy you think of this structure and this scene.
What is a pyramid and a mountain scene.
What are the 4 Common Communication Styles in Relationships?
Amplifier/Condenser
Competitive/Affiliative
Direct/Indirect
Hot/Cold
There are 3 Types of Wives, name all 3.
1. Antagonistic
2. Attendant
3. Ally
Being precise with your emotions and using NEW words to describe them.
(hint: color wheel)
These three things are significant to Building intimacy. Why?
Trust
Safety
Vulnerability
What are the Three Things Needed to Build Intimacy?
Going to bed at night together
Date nights
Anniversaries, birthdays
Dinner
These are all apart of establishing what?
True or False
The Antagonistic wife thinks she is smarter than her husband and doesn't trust his leadership.
TRUE
I can be the scariest letter in the RULER acronym
What is expressing?
This letter is the scariest of all five because we are revealing our emotions and being vulnerable
Which of these are not apart of the Ten Essential Communication Skills?
A. Using YOU Statements
B. Exhibiting Empathy
C. Adjusting Body Language
D. Positioning
Paraphrasing
Passive Listening
Using I Statements
Exhibiting Empathy
Adjusting Body Language
Positioning
Modulating Vocal Tone
Mirroring
Asking Questions
There are four areas of intimacy, name them.
Physical
Sexual
Spiritual
Emotional
Dr. John Gottman says you need to spend how many hours a week as a couple?
What are the MAGIC 6 Hours?
These 4 windows represent what self awareness tool.
1. Known to Self - things we know about ourselves and others know about us
2. Hidden Self -things we know about ourselves that others don't know
3. Blind Self - things others know about us that we do not know
4. Unknown Self -things neither we nor others know about us
What is Johari's Window?
(I am one of the R's on the RULER tool)
What is Recognizing?
***Daily DOUBLE****
Instead of shutting down which one of these should you do?
A. Repeat what you heard
B. Present your perspective
C. Allow space and time
D. All the above
Answer: D. All of the above
1. Give the person time and space to be heard
2. Repeat what you heard-paraphrase
3. Reflect or Redirect
4. Present your perspective
What is emotional intimacy?
****DAILY DOUBLE****
For every 1 negative interaction there must be ___ positive interactions?
What is 5?
Using a pattern to sew a shirt or pants.
You can find me at the top of the RULER hierarchy. I am the most complex too because I require you to take a META moment. Step outside yourself.
What is regulating?
True or False?
There are 5 Steps to Fighting Fair.
False
There are 6 steps to Fighting Fair.
1. Same Team
2. Put your Deadly Weapons down
3. Timing is Right
4. Edify not Destroy
5. Work Together Not against each other
6. Seek to forgive and Get Closer
When you unpack your baggage to understand intimacy barriers where should you begin?
What is childhood?
This process sustains marriages over time, through life changing situations, and individual growth.
What is collaboration?