The Basics
Constructive or Destructive?
Learning to Filter
Filtering Practice
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This social skill involves thinking twice before speaking out loud.
What is a SOCIAL FILTER?
100
"You did a great job taking turns with your friends during Candyland, but let's work on sharing your other toys too next time."
What is constructive criticism?
☑ Focuses on Specific Behaviors
☑ Acknowledge the Positive
☑ Encouraging Tone
100
Constructive criticism is characterized by these three components:
1. Focuses on specific behaviors that need improvement
2. Acknowledges the person's strengths
3. Delivered in a way that encourages growth
100
Filter this statement as constructive criticism.
"This plan is a disaster. You obviously didn't think it through."
"I appreciate that you're passionate about the topic, but let's make sure we're considering all perspectives before jumping to conclusions." ?
Check to make sure your example:
❏ Focuses on specific behaviors that need improvement
❏ Acknowledges the person's strengths
❏ Delivered in a way that encourages growth
200
The act of expressing disapproval of someone or something due to perceived flaws or errors.
What is criticism?
200
This is an example of ____________.
"You handled that situation all wrong. You should have known better."
What is destructive criticism?
⌧ Focuses on Specific Behaviors
⌧ Acknowledge the Positive
⌧ Encouraging Tone
200
Destructive Criticism: "You're always procrastinating and it's going to catch up to you. You'll never get anything done."
Constructive Re-frame: "I like that you're exploring different activities, but _______________ to make sure you're not overcommitting yourself"
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Which component of constructive criticism is missing?
❏ Focuses on specific behaviors that need improvement
❏ Acknowledges the person's strengths
❏ Delivered in a way that encourages growth
What is "focusing on a specific behavior for improvement?"
✅ Acknowledges the person's strengths
✅ Delivered in a way that encourages growth
"I like that you're exploring different activities, but let's talk about balancing your schedule to make sure you're not overcommitting yourself."
200
Filter this statement as constructive:
"Your presentation was terrible. You didn't use any visuals and it was really boring."
"Your presentation was informative and the transitions were flawless, but I think you could have used more visuals to help illustrate your points."
Check to make sure your example:
❏ Focuses on specific behaviors that need improvement
❏ Acknowledges the person's strengths
❏ Delivered in a way that encourages growth
300
Two types of criticism include:
What is Constructive Criticism and Destructive Criticism?
300
This is an example of ___________ criticism.
"You did a good job on the project, but let's work on presenting with more confidence next time."
What is constructive criticism?
☑ Focuses on Specific Behaviors
☑ Acknowledge the Positive
☑ Encouraging Tone
300
Destructive Criticism: “You clearly don’t know what you are doing.”
Constructive Re-frame: "You might have more success if you reached out to someone with more experience for some guidance"
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Which component of constructive criticism is missing?
❏ Focuses on specific behaviors that need improvement
❏ Acknowledges the person's strengths
❏ Delivered in a way that encourages growth
What is Acknowledges the person's strengths?
Original Re-frame: "You might have more success if you reached out to someone with more experience for some guidance"
✅ Focuses on specific behaviors that need improvement
❏ Acknowledges the person's strengths
✅ Delivered in a way that encourages growth
A better example would be something like:
"I like that you're taking the initiative to learn new skills! You might have more success if you reached out to someone with more experience for some guidance"
300
Filter this statement to be constructive:
"You're doing it all wrong. You're wasting your time and it's not going to get you anywhere."
"I appreciate that you're taking initiative, but let's talk through the plan to make sure you’re on the right track“
Check to make sure your example:
❏ Focuses on specific behaviors that need improvement
❏ Acknowledges the person's strengths
❏ Delivered in a way that encourages growth
400
This type of criticism is
▸ vague and non-specific
▸ focuses on the individual's characteristics or attributes
▸ often delivered inconsiderately or with a negative attitude
What is destructive criticism?
400
This is an example of _________ criticism.
"You have great ideas, but I think you could benefit from working on your time management skills to meet your deadlines."
What is constructive criticism?
☑ Focuses on Specific Behaviors
☑ Acknowledge the Positive
☑ Encouraging Tone
400
Destructive Criticism: "Your homework is always wrong. You need to start paying attention in class and stop making careless mistakes."
Constructive Re-frame: "I appreciate that you're taking responsibility for your homework, but you're still getting it all wrong because you make a lot of careless mistakes."
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Which component of constructive criticism is missing?
❏ Focuses on specific behaviors that need improvement
❏ Acknowledges the person's strengths
❏ Delivered in a way that encourages growth
what is Delivered in a way that encourages growth?
A better re-frame would be:
"I appreciate that you're taking responsibility for your homework, but make sure you're double-checking your answers before turning it in."
400
Filter this statement to be constructive:
"You're not a good listener. You interrupt people all the time and it's really annoying."
"You have a lot of great ideas and you're great at explaining them, but I noticed that you tend to interrupt people when they're speaking. It would be helpful to work on active listening skills."
Check to make sure your example:
❏ Focuses on specific behaviors that need improvement
❏ Acknowledges the person's strengths
❏ Delivered in a way that encourages growth
500
This type of criticism is often delivered without a ________________ and might have several negative effects including:
(name 2-3 possible effects)
Destructive criticism is often delivered without a social filter and might have several negative effects including:
▸ may cause the person to react defensively
▸ could damage the relationship with the person
▸ the person will probably be less likely improve in the future
▸ it will likely harm the person's confidence or hurt their feelings
500
This is an example of _____________ criticism:
"You're so disrespectful when you don’t agree with others’ opinons and You never consider anyone else's perspective - You need to learn to be more considerate and open minded”
What is destructive criticism?
⌧ Focuses on Specific Behaviors
⌧ Acknowledge the Positive
⌧ Encouraging Tone
500
Destructive Criticism: "That essay was not your best work. You didn't include enough examples and it was really bland.”
Constructive Re-frame: "Your essay was well-organized, but ........
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Finish this reframe! Make sure all three components are included:
❏ Focuses on specific behaviors that need improvement
❏ Acknowledges the person's strengths
❏ Delivered in a way that encourages growth
"Your essay was well-organized, but I think you could have included more examples to support your arguments."
500
Filter this statement to be constructive:
"You're terrible at making friends. No one wants to hang out with you because you're so awkward."
"I like that you're trying to make new friends, but you might have more success if you try asking more questions to get to know them better."
Check to make sure your example:
❏ Focuses on specific behaviors that need improvement
❏ Acknowledges the person's strengths
❏ Delivered in a way that encourages growth