Feelings Statement
What is the statement used to communicate a response to a conflict?
"I' Statement
What animal represents an Aggressive or Forceful choice when in conflict?
(Owl, Teddy Bear, Turtle, Shark, or Fox)
Shark
T
A
L
K
Take a breath/break
Ask their perspective/then share your own
List the options
Keep it real
Fill in the blank.
The 10 essential _______ of dignity.
The 10 essential ELEMENTS of dignity.
What is the difference between an observation and a judgment?
Observation is what you see or witness. Judgment is adding your opinion.
What is the first part of the "I" statement?
I feel (feeling word)
If you make this choice when faced with conflict, you will try to be likeable, loveable, and accommodating.
(Owl, Shark, Teddy Bear, Fox, Turtle)
Teddy Bear
After gaining each other's perspectives, both Nathan and Shanna think about what they are able to do to prevent the harm from happening again.
What step does this represent?
List the options
Fill in the blank.
The 10 __________ to violate dignity.
The 10 TEMPTATIONS to violate dignity.
You took my book and I never said you could.
Is this an observation or a judgment?
Observation
What is the second part of the "I" statement?
When you (observation)
This animal gives a little to get a little, but their goal is to give as little as possible and gain as much as possible.
Which animal or Keyword represents this conflict choice?
Fox (Compromise)
After listing the options, Nathan and Shanna go through each option and decide whether or not they are personally willing to follow through with what has been suggested.
What step does this represent?
Keep it Real
What is the difference between respect and dignity?
Respect has to be earned.
Dignity is inherent.
Tyler is a terrible football player.
Is this an observation or a judgment?
Judgment
What is the third part of the "I" statement?
Because (need).
Someone bumps in to you in the hallway and you quickly turn around as they hurry off. You don't recognize them which means you don't share any classes with them and you didn't get hurt. You decide to just go about your day.
What key word or animal represents this conflict choice?
Turtle (Avoid)
Nathan (the one who feels harmed) asks Shanna what was going on for her that day. After Shanna shares, Nathan asks if Shanna is open to hearing what was going on for him that day.
What step does this represent?
Ask their perspective, then share your own.
Scenario: You have a challenging project for school, and your parent offers to do most of the work for you. Instead, you decide to tackle the project on your own, making sure that every part of it reflects your own effort and ideas.
Which essential element or violation of dignity does this represent?
-Fairness
-Resisting Feedback
-Independence
Bonus Points(50 points): Is this an essential element or violation of dignity?
Independence
The principal is out to get me.
This is a judgment. Turn it in to an observation
The Principal stopped me in the hall 3 times today!
(Answers will vary)
Your friend was supposed to meet you in the library to study and they didn't show up.
Create a "I" statement based on the scenario above.
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How does Collaboration (Owl) differ from Compromise (Fox)?
Compromise is a quick fix where we give up a little to get a little. Collaboration takes time and addresses the needs of everyone involved.
Shanna hurts Nathan’s feelings. Nathan takes a week to approach Shanna about the conflict. What step does this represent?
Take a break/breath
Scenario: You hear that a rumor is being spread about you online. Instead of addressing it directly, you spread a different rumor about the person who started it.
Which essential element or violation of dignity does this represent?
-Taking the Bait
-Engaging in Gossip
-Being the Victim
Bonus Points(50 points): Is this an essential element or violation of dignity?
Taking the Bait
What is something from the conflict resolution workshops that you plan to use?
(Answers will vary)