STEP 1 & 2
Wait for a pause, Have a cover story
What do you not want to ask at first?
Personal questions
Why should you not talk about dating history?
Makes people uncomfortable, it is personal.
We don't assume we are a...
couple
Why should you not be a player?
You can hurt people's feelings, Bad reputation
STEP 3 & 4
Thank them & tell them you had a good time
What don't you want to share at first?
Personal information
What is sharing dating history?
How many partners you had etc.
Who can help you figure out when you can ask for a date to be exclusive?
Family, friends, staff...
What could happen if you pressure a date?
Tell will stop dating you, get scared, pull away.
STEP 5 & 6
Walk them out & suggest going out again
What don't you want to disclose?
diagnoses/medical conditions
We should not compare out current date to our...
ex-partner or date.
What can happen if you assume you are a couple?
People can feel pressure, you can be pushy.
Being a player is...
Dating more than one person at a time. Hidding dates, lying etc.
STEP 7
Tell them you will follow up
What is an example of a personal question?
What is an example of a bad dating experience?
What does kiss and tell mean?
Having physical contact and telling people.
What is an example of pressuring a date?
Physical contact without asking.
STEP 8 & 9
Say goodbye and ask for permission if you want physical contact
How would you respond to a personal question?
I rather not talk about that, thank you. Change the subject.
I rather not talk about them, tell me about you.
How can someone feel if you kiss and tell?
embarrassed, sad, worried...
We don't talk about this at first because you may scare them off.
Your Feelings