Thinking Errors
Using this thinking error, you pretend that the event didn't happen. You might even try to fool yourself into thinking that it didn't happen.
Denial
(Unwilling to Accept Responsibility)
What is the most effective communication style that gets you the best results?
Assertive!
What does "acting impulsively" mean?
A word that describes acting without thinking, or acting on an urge.
What does minimizing an offense sound like?
"It was only one time..."
What is an "indirect victim"?
Someone who is impacted by your offense, but you did not offend on them.
Example: This can be your family and friends.
What is the definition of the thinking error: Shifting the Focus?
Here, you try to get people's minds and attention on to something else and distract them from the real issue.
What is Passive-Aggressive communication like?
Thoughts, feelings, and wishes are expressed indirectly or are not expressed at all, and it results in the putdown of others.
What does it mean to "cope"?
To deal successfully with a problem, without resorting to negative or antisocial behaviors. Someone who is coping can successfully and positively face and deal with responsibilities, problems, or difficulties in a calm manner.
How can thinking errors lead to negative behaviors and outcomes?
Can make negative behaviors seem okay or justified.
What are some signs you may need to take a break to calm down?
Clenched fists, racing heart, feeling overwhelmed.
Provide a type of thinking error that falls under the self-defeating, or "I can't", category.
Accepted Answers:
Catastrophic, hopelessness, over-generalization, black/white, ought's/should's/musts, fortune telling, projection, mind reading, labeling, personalization, negative focus, avoidance, emotional mis reasoning.
What is the purpose of "I" statements?
Helps you learn to take responsibility for your feelings, without blaming others. It is an important part of assertive communication.
How can feelings shape someone's behavior?
Thoughts } Feelings } Behavior
Why is it important to know what your triggers are?
If you don't know, you won't know how to prevent acting on urges/impulses. And, you are able to avoid high risk situations if necessary.
If unavoidable, you will understand how to cope with these things.
What are some nonverbal cues that someone is uncomfortable?
Fidgeting, avoiding eye contact, head facing down.
Provide the definition & real-life (personal) example of the thinking error - taking it personally.
Definition: you feel as though the rules only apply to you, instead of to everyone and that people and things are against you personally.
Examples: That cop was out to get me. Things never go right for me. You made that rule just so you could make life hard for me. You don't treat other people this way.
What are the goals of interpersonal effectiveness skills?
1. learning to be clear about your goals when interacting with others
2. learning how to ask for what you want
3. learning how to say "no"
4. Learning how to resolve conflict
Which emotion is considered a "secondary emotion" and why?
Anger,
Usually it comes after feeling disappointed, sad, upset, depressed.
Anger is considered a secondary emotion because it often arises as a protective response to more vulnerable primary emotions such as fear, sadness, or shame.
Why is it important to respect a person's "No", even if you don't understand the reason?
Every person has the right to make their own decisions about what happens to them.
Key ideas: Empathy, Respect, Trust, Consent, and Safety.
Which situation is NOT an example of healthy consent?
A
Describe a thinking error you possess that holds you back in treatment. Name the thinking error, define it, provide example of you using it, and provide explanation as to why you believe you use it.
Answer must include all 4 parts.
Turn this into an I statement:
It's your fault I'm upset, you always forget about coming to my football games.
I feel upset when you miss my games. Next time, I would like to see you there.
What is remorse, and how can it be shown in an appropriate way?
Remorse is more than feeling bad; it involves deep emotional pain, guilt, and a desire to correct one’s mistakes.
A remorseful person typically uses sincere language such as “I’m sorry,” “I regret what I did,” or “I was wrong”. Fake remorse may place blame on those the action impacted.
What are some differences between healthy curiosity and concerning sexual behaviors?
Concerning: Not understanding/respecting boundaries/consent, using manipulation or coercion, not age appropriate or cognitively appropriate.
Healthy Curiosity: Attracted to those in your age range, continuing to respect boundaries, firm understanding of consent, knowing when and how to control urges.
Which statement shows accountability?
A