PLEASE
What does each letter(s) in PLEASE stand for? *Hint: P and L are combined*
Pl-(treat) Physical illness, E-Eat balanced meals, A-Avoid mood-altering drugs and take prescription drugs as prescribed, S-Sleep, E-Exercise
What does each letter stand for in FAST?
(be) Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to Your Values, (be) Truthful
Use "I" statements; share your thoughts/feelings; consider which feelings strengthen the request--less is often more
Express (your opinions/emotions)
What letter does each letter stand for in GIVE?
(be) Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, (use an) Easy Manner
What does each letter stand for in THINK?
Think, Have Empathy, Interpretation, Notice, Kindness
Try to get some physical activity in every day
2nd E (make time for) Exercise
Saying sorry for having an opinion, needing help, or things outside your control
(no) Apologies/Avoid Unnecessary Apologies
Let them know what positive things will happen if your request is met; can be as simple as to say thank you
Reinforce
Smile, use humor when appropriate; use good manners; concede small points (you don't always have to be right).
Easy manner
Put yourself in the other person's shoes; What might they be thinking or feeling? What might they want or need from this interaction?
Have Empathy
Most people need 7-10 hours per night.
Sleep
Make a list of your top principles (things you strongly believe in); Ask yourself, does this decision align with these?
Stick to Your Values
Stay focused on the goal; avoid getting side-tracked.
(be) Mindful
Avoid judgments and attacks; use a soft, even tone; avoid threats (don't threaten to end a relationship); be prepared to accept a "no."
Choose nice words; be direct; take some time and revisit conflict if necessary
Kindness
Stay away from mood-altering drugs and take prescription drugs as prescribed
Avoid mood-altering drugs
Do you hold yourself to too high or too low of standards? Do you hold other people to too high or too low of standards? Avoid making judgments; avoid put-downs.
(be) Fair
Ask or say directly; don't beat around the bush.
Assert
Look/listen for clues as to what they are thinking or feeling; put yourself in their shoes; use body language to acknowledge their feelings (nod, smile, look concerned, etc.); verbally acknowledge their feelings/experiences
Validate
To take note of body language and facial expressions; any attempts they make to be kind or resolve the conflict
Notice
Take care of your body when you are sick; have routine check-ups even if you're feeling fine
(treat) Physical illness
Avoid making excuses; avoid lies; avoid minimizing or exaggerating the situation; be accountable to yourself and others.
(be) Truthful
Sit or stand up straight; make eye contact; speak clearly.
Appear Confident
Keep open body language; make eye contact; ask questions about the other person; avoid interrupting.
Step back and view the situation like it's happening on a television screen; try to be objective
Think