Biological Changes
Prompting Events
Expressions and Actions
Words
Aftereffects
100

-Muscles tightening.

• Teeth clamping together.

• Hands clenching.

• Feeling your face flush or get hot.

• Feeling like you are going to explode.

•Wanting to hit someone, bang the wall, throw

something, blow up.

••Wanting to hurt someone

What is anger?

100

Doing or thinking something you believe is

wrong.

•• Doing or thinking something that violates your

personal values.

•• Not doing something you said that you would

do.

•• Committing a transgression against another

person or something you value.

•• Causing harm/damage to another person or

object.

•• Being reminded of something wrong you did

in the past.

What is guilt?

100

Physically or verbally attacking.

•• Making aggressive or threatening gestures.

•• Pounding, throwing things, breaking things.

••Walking heavily, stomping, slamming doors.

••Walking out.

•• Using a loud, quarrelsome, or sarcastic voice.

•• Using obscenities or swearing.

•• Criticizing or complaining.

•• Clenching your hands or fists.

What is anger?

100

culpability 

remorse 

apologetic 

regret 

sorry

What is guilt?

100

Narrowing of attention.

•• Seeing the worst in others.

•• Being mistrustful across the board.

•• Being hypervigilant to threats to your

relationships.

•• Becoming isolated or withdrawn.

What is jealousy?

200

Breathlessness.

•• Fast heartbeat.

•• Choking sensation, lump in throat.

•• Muscles tensing, cramping.

•• Clenching teeth.

•• Feeling nauseated.

•• Feeling your hairs standing on end.

•• Feeling of “butterflies” in stomach.

••Wanting to run away or avoid things.

What is fear?

200

An important relationship is threatened or in

danger of being lost.

•• A potential competitor pays attention to

someone you love.

Your partner appears to flirt with someone

else.

•• A person you are romantically involved with

looks at someone else.

•• You find the person you love is having an

affair with someone else.

What is jealousy?

200

Fleeing, running away.

•• Running or walking hurriedly.

•• Hiding from or avoiding what you fear.

•• Engaging in nervous, fearful talk.

•• Pleading or crying for help.

•• Talking less or becoming speechless.

•• Screaming or yelling.

•• Darting eyes or quickly looking around.

•• Frozen stare.

What is fear?

200

anxiety

apprehension

horror 

nervousness

worry

What is fear?

200

Being courteous or friendly to others.

•• Doing nice things for other people.

•• Having a positive outlook; seeing the bright

side.

•• Having a high threshold for worry or

annoyance.

•• Remembering and imagining other times you

have felt joyful.

What is happiness?

300

Feeling excited and full of energy.

•• Fast heartbeat.

•• Feeling self-confident.

•• Feeling invulnerable.

•• Feeling happy, joyful, or exuberant.

•• Feeling warm, trusting, and secure.

•• Feeling relaxed and calm.

What is love?

300

Receiving a wonderful surprise.

•• Reality exceeding your expectations.

•• Getting what you want.

•• Getting something you have worked hard for

or worried about.

•• Things turning out better than you thought

they would.

•• Being successful at a task.

•• Receiving esteem, respect, or praise.

•• Receiving love, liking, or affection.

•• Being accepted by others.

What is happiness?

300

Avoiding things.

•• Acting helpless; staying in bed; being

inactive.

•• Moping, brooding, or acting moody.

•• Making slow, shuffling movements.

••Withdrawing from social contact.

•• Avoiding activities that used to bring pleasure.

•• Giving up and no longer trying to improve.

What is sadness?

300

bitterness

covetous

craving

longing

wishful

discontented

What is envy?

300

Not being able to remember happy things.

•• Feeling irritable, touchy, or grouchy.

•• Yearning and searching for the thing lost.

•• Having a negative outlook.

•• Blaming or criticizing yourself.

•• Ruminating about sad events in the past.

•• Insomnia.

What is sadness?

400

Feeling tired, run down, or low in energy.

•• Feeling lethargic, listless; wanting to stay in

bed all day.

•• Feeling as if nothing is pleasurable any more.

•• Pain or hollowness in your chest or gut.

•• Feeling empty.

•• Feeling as if you can’t stop crying, or if you

ever start crying you will never be able to

stop.

•• Difficulty swallowing.

What is sadness?

400

Having your life, your health, or your wellbeing

threatened.

•• Being in the same situation (or a similar one)

where you have been threatened or gotten

hurt in the past, or where painful things have

happened.

•• Flashbacks.

•• Being in situations where you have seen

others threatened or be hurt.

•• Being in a new or unfamiliar situation.

•• Being alone

What is fear?

400

Trying to repair the harm, make amends for the wrongdoing, fix the damage, change the

outcome.

•• Asking for forgiveness, apologizing, confessing.

•• Giving gifts/making sacrifices to try to make up for the transgression.

•• Bowing your head; kneeling before the person.

What is guilt?

400

agitation

annoyance

fury

rage

wrath

What is anger?

400

Avoiding thinking about your transgression;

shutting down; blocking all emotions.

•• Engaging in distracting, impulsive behaviors

to divert your mind or attention.

•• High amount of “self-focus”; preoccupation

with yourself.

•• Depersonalization, dissociative experiences,

numbness, or shock.

•• Attacking or blaming others.

•• Conflicts with other people.

•• Isolation, feeling alienated.

What is shame?

500

Pain in the pit of the stomach.

•• Sense of dread.

••Wanting to shrink down and/or disappear.

••Wanting to hide or cover your face and body.

What is shame?

500

Seeing/smelling human or animal waste

products.

•• Having a person or an animal that is dirty,

slimy, or unclean come close to you.

•• Tasting something or being forced to swallow

something you really don’t want.

•• Seeing or being near a dead body.

•• Touching items worn or owned by a stranger,

dead person, or disliked person.

•• Observing or hearing about a person who

grovels or who strips another person of

dignity.

•• Seeing blood; getting blood drawn.

What is disgust?

500

Hiding behavior or a characteristic from other

people.

•• Avoiding the person you have harmed.

•• Avoiding persons who have criticized you.

•• Avoiding yourself—distracting, ignoring.

••Withdrawing; covering the face.

•• Bowing your head, groveling.

•• Appeasing; saying you are sorry over and

over and over.

•• Looking down and away from others.

What is shame?

500

joy

relief

gladness

pride

thrill

What is happiness?

500

Making resolutions to change.

•• Making changes in behavior.

•• Joining self-help programs.

What is guilt?

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