What is GIVE?
What does the “G” in GIVE stand for?
Gentle
True or False: Being gentle means yelling to get your point across.
False
What is one way to show you are listening?
Eye contact / nodding / facing the speaker
What does “validate” mean?
Show you understand someone’s feelings
What is one way to have an easy manner?
Smile / be relaxed / use humor
What does the “I” in GIVE stand for?
Interested
Name one way you can be gentle when talking to a friend.
Use kind words / calm voice / no insults
True or False: Looking at your phone shows interest.
False
True or False: Saying “That makes sense” is validating.
True
You are talking to a classmate who seems a little upset. Which of these shows an easy manner?
A) Crossing your arms and sounding serious
B) Speaking in a calm, friendly voice
C) Rolling your eyes
D) Walking away
Speaking in a calm, friendly voice
What does the “V” in GIVE stand for?
Validate
What should you NOT do if you’re trying to be gentle?
Threaten, insult, or yell
What is a good question you can ask to show interest?
Possible examples: How did that make you feel? How was your day?
Which is more validating:
A) “That’s dumb”
B) “I get why you feel that way”
B
Why is an easy manner helpful when talking to others?
Helps people feel comfortable and open
What does the “E” in GIVE stand for?
Easy manner
If someone makes a mistake, how can you respond gently?
Stay calm, be kind, don’t blame
What body language shows you are interested?
Facing person, nodding, eye contact
Give an example of a validating statement.
“I understand why you're upset”
You’re feeling annoyed, but you still want the conversation to go well. What are two ways you can keep an easy manner?
Use a calm voice, take a breath, smile slightly, keep body relaxed, don’t show attitude
What DBT skill helps us keep friendships strong and positive?
GIVE
Why is being gentle important in friendships?
Helps people feel safe and respected
Why is showing interest important in conversations?
Makes others feel heard and valued
Why is validation important?
Helps people feel understood and respected
Scenario: You want to keep a conversation friendly and calm. Which part of GIVE helps most?
Easy manner