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DEAR MAN
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Interpersonal Effectiveness Grab Bag
100

Letter in DEAR MAN used when you stick to the facts of the current situation.

What is D: Describe.

100

Name one of the three Don'ts mentioned in the letter G

Don’t attack, threat, judge

100

What is your primary goal when using FAST?

Maintaining self-respect

100

Express yourself using an "I" Statement: "I feel __________ because ________________."

  • “I feel disappointed because I come home and the house is messy.”
  • "I feel frustrated when you're late for our dates because it makes me feel like you don't value my time.
  • “I feel worried when I don't hear from you because I just want to know that you're ok and safe.”
  • I feel annoyed when you interrupt me when I'm talking because I want you to hear what I'm saying."
100

Keeping and maintaining healthy relationships describes what skill?

GIVE Skills

200

Component of DEARMAN where you make your intentions clearly known by ASKING for what you want or SAYING NO clearly.

What is A: ASSERT.

200

Name one thing you can validate



Facts of a situation, Emotions, Beliefs, Opinions, Thoughts, Suffering and struggles

200

Can you apologize during FAST?

Yes

200

Give a Wise Mind Statement for the following worry thought:

"If I say, "no," they'll be really angry at me."

"If I say no to people and they get angry, it doesn't mean I should have said yes."

"I can deal with it if she or he is upset with me."

200

Asking for something, resolving a problem, or wanting people to take you seriously refers to what interpersonal skill?

DEAR MAN Skills

300

Component of DEAR MAN where you let others know the positive benefits, or clarify the negative consequences of not getting what you want or need.

What is R: Reinforce.

300

Component of GIVE where you might smile and use humor to lighten the mood.

E - easy manner

300

FAST involves sticking to your values. Which one of the following is NOT a value?

  • Attending to relationships
  • Being responsible
  • Eating
  • Learning
  • Focusing on family
  • Eating
300

Give a Wise Mind Statement for the following worry thought:

"Why bother asking? It won't make a difference anyway."

  • Examples:

    "Just because I didn't get what I wanted last time does not mean that if I ask skillfully this time that I won't get it."

    "I can handle it if I don't get what I want or need."

300

Give an example of a worry thought.

Examples: "They won't like me," "He will break up with me," "I'm such a bad person," "I don't deserve this," "I won't do it right," "I'm such a loser."

400

Be willing to GIVE TO GET describes what skill in DEAR MAN?

N: Negotiate

400

True or False – validation is Fixing, offering solutions, or giving advice.

False

400

Which one of the following is an example of not being Truthful?

  • Exaggerating
  • Telling half truths
  • Acting helpless or overly upset
  • Twisting information to confuse the situation
  • All of the above

all of the above

400

Name 2 of the 6 factors to consider in asking for what you want or saying "no" to an unwanted request:

1. Priorities

2. Capability

3. Timeliness

4. Preparation

5. Relationship

6. Give and take

400

In GIVE Skills, what are these statements examples of: "I can understand how you feel and..." "I realize this is hard..." "I see you are busy, and..." "That must have felt..."

Validate

500

What is your primary goal for using DEAR MAN?

Getting what you want


500

Name three ways you can Act Interested

eye contact, active/reflective listening, nodding, not interrupting


500

F stands for Fair.

When you are being Fair, who are you being fair to?

Yourself and Others

500

What 2 things are most important to consider when deciding which skill to use (FAST, GIVE, DEAR MAN)?

Your goal and priority

500

Describe how you might appear confident.

make good eye contact

speak clearly

do not whisper