General IE
Define interpersonal effectiveness
Relationship skills; Interpersonal = between self and others; effectiveness = how well it works.
What is the goal of the DEAR MAN skill?
Get what you want from somebody else
What is the goal of the GIVE skill?
Maintain/build a relationship; prioritize the relationship
What is the goal of the FAST skill?
Maintain Self-Respect
What does DBT stand for?
Dialectical Behavior Therapy
Name one of the three possible goals of any interpersonal interaction.
Keep and maintain healthy relationships, get somebody to do what you want, maintain your self-respect
What does DEAR stand for?
Describe the situation, Express emotions, Assert what you want, reinforce the other person
What does the G in GIVE stand for?
be Gentle
What do the F and the A in FAST stand for?
Be Fair and No Apologies
What is the foundational skill of DBT that we practice at the beginning of each group session?
Mindfulness
What are 2 factors that might interfere with your ability to be successful when using interpersonal effectiveness skills?
Don't have skills, Indecision, Emotions, You forget long-term goals for short-term goals, the environment (Other people are getting in your way), myths and worry thoughts
In DEAR MAN, what do the A and N in MAN stand for?
Appear Confident and Negotiate
What does the I in GIVE stand for?
act Interested
What do the S and T in FAST stand for?
Stick to your values and be truthful
What are the four modules of DBT?
Mindfulness, Distress Tolerance, Emotion Regulation, Interpersonal Effectiveness
What are 2 factors to consider in asking for what you want (or in saying "no" to a request you don't want to meet)?
Priorities, capability, timing, preparation, relationship (is what I want appropriate to the current relationship), give and take
In DEAR MAN, what does the M stand for, and what is an example?
Stay Mindful - using the Broken Record technique and Ignoring Attacks
What do the V and the E in GIVE stand for?
Validation and use an Easy Manner
To need things from others, put yourself first sometimes, change your mind, ignore the advice of others, not to always aowrry about the goodwill of others, to say no, etc.
Family, friendship, integrity, beauty, etc. etc.
Name at least one myth/worry thought that interferes with interpersonal effectiveness.
I don't deserve to get what I want, making a request = weak, if they say no it will kill me, saying no to a request is selfish, only wimps have values, everybody lies, other people should be willing to do more for my needs, etc.
Provide an example of a time when it makes sense to decrease the intensity of a request; provide an example of a time when it makes sense to increase the intensity of a request.
Examples
Name at least 2/6 levels of Validation
Pay attention, Reflect back, "Read Minds," Understand, Acknowledge the valid, Show equality
Give an example of a time when it makes sense to compromise your values rather than stick to them
Example (i.e. safety)
Name the technique we use to Negotiate when the other person has already said "no" to our request
Turn the tables