DEARMAN
The first step in DEARMAN is...
Describe the situation
Name three things you can validate.
Facts of a situation, Emotions, Beliefs, Opinions, Thoughts, Suffering and struggles
What is your primary goal when using FAST?
Maintaining self-respect/Feeling good about yourself
**DOUBLE JEOPARDY**
Dialectics consider that...
Two opposing things/opinions/facts can be true at the same time.
E.g., I can love someone and not want them in my life at the same time.
Which president is on the quarter?
George Washington
Component of DEARMAN where you make your intentions clearly known by asking for what you want or saying no clearly.
A: Assert
**DOUBLE JEOPARDY**
When you tell someone that you understand their feelings, wants, difficulties and opinions about the situation, you're using this GIVE skill.
Validate
Can you apologize during FAST?
Yes! Apologize if you are truly wrong, but no overly apologetic behavior.
Name one factor that can reduce interpersonal effectiveness.
Lack of skill, Myths that confuse you, Emotion mind, Indecision, Environment
True or false: Gum was created by accident.
True
**DOUBLE JEOPARDY**
What is your primary goal for using DEARMAN?
Getting what you want
Name one of the three "Don’ts" mentioned in the letter G.
Don’t attack
Don't threaten
Don't judge
F stands for Fair.
When you are being Fair, who are you being fair to?
Yourself and others
Everybody has some worries about standing up for themselves expressing opinions and saying no. Some of these worries are based on myths about interpersonal behavior. What is one way to counteract these myths? (Give an example for double points!)
1. Try to argue against them logically/check the facts
2. Experiment out in the world and see if they are true
What is the only animal that can't jump?
Elephant
Name all the DEARMAN skills!
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, (be) Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate
What does the I in GIVE stand for (and one example)?
Act Interested (maintain eye contact, don't let your thoughts wander, etc.)
Use FAST skills to respond to the following scenario: Your friend wants you to steal some money from your sister.
...
1. If it corrects important mistakes
2. If it stimulates intellectual and personal growth by listening to other views
**DOUBLE JEOPARDY**
What is the only kind of bird that can fly backwards?
Hummingbird
Use DEARMAN to respond to the following scenario:
Your roommate leaves dirty clothes on your side of the room after you have asked them not to in the past.
...
What does the E in GIVE stand for (and one example)?
(use an) Easy Manner
E.g.: Use a little humor, smile, be light-hearted, use a "soft sell" over a "hard sell," be diplomatic
**DOUBLE JEOPARDY**
Name all the FAST skills!
(be) Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to Values, (be) truthful
Name the 3 purposes of interpersonal effectiveness skills.
Getting your objectives, Keeping or improving self-respect, Getting or keeping a healthy relationship
What is the most consumed chocolate bar in the world?
Snickers