DEAR MAN Skills
This is what the “D” in DEAR MAN stands for.
What is Describe?
The “G” in GIVE stands for this and helps keep the interaction warm and respectful.
What is Gentle?
This part of FAST involves validating your feelings and wishes, as well as those of others involved, and avoiding judgement.
What is being fair?
This is what you are working toward when you want to get or refuse something.
What is Objective effectiveness?
True or False: Using DEAR MAN means you’ll always get what you want.
What is False
The “A” in DEAR MAN reminds you to express this.
What is Assert (or Ask for what you want/need)?
This GIVE skill means showing you’re really paying attention.
What is Interested?
The “A” in FAST means doing this to avoid apologizing when you’ve done nothing wrong.
What is Acting confident?
This effectiveness goal focuses on maintaining or improving your connection with someone.
What is Relationship effectiveness?
True or False: You should never validate someone if you don’t agree with them.
What is False?
This is what “N” in DEAR MAN means, and helps you bring closure to your request.
What is Negotiate?
The “V” in GIVE encourages you to show that you understand the others person's feelings and thoughts by doing this.
What is Validating?
This is what the S in the FAST skill stands for.
This goal is all about acting in ways that make you feel good about yourself.
What is Self-respect effectiveness?
True or False: FAST skills are only useful in romantic relationships.
What is False?
This part of DEAR MAN means backing up your request with reasons or information/ sharing your feelings about the situation.
What is Express?
This GIVE skill involves keeping things light-hearted and maybe even using some humor.
What is Easy manner?
This part of the FAST skill involves avoiding exaggerations, excuses, and lies. It's also about not acting helpless or taking advantage of others when you are capable of helping yourself.
What is Truth?
Before choosing which interpersonal skill set to use, you should first clarify this.
What is your primary goal?
True or False: It’s possible to use all three skill sets (DEAR MAN, GIVE, and FAST) in one conversation.
What is True?
These three DEAR MAN skills focus on how you say your message (not just what you say).
What are Mindful, Appear Confident, and Negotiate?
Using GIVE skills is most helpful when your main goal is to preserve this.
What is the relationship?
FAST skills are most useful when this is your main goal.
What is Self-respect effectiveness?
This acronym helps you clarify your priorities when choosing which effectiveness goal to pursue.
What is DEAR MAN, GIVE, FAST
True or False: Being assertive means being aggressive.
What is False