DEARMAN
What does the “D” in DEAR stand for?
Describe
What does the “G” in GIVE stand for?
Gentle
What is validation?
Acknowledging someone’s emotions, thoughts, and/or behaviors.
Reinforcement makes behavior go up or down?
Up
I speak without a mouth and hear without ears. What am I?
An echo
What does the “E” in DEAR stand for?
Express
What does the “F” in FAST stand for?
Fair to yourself and others
True or False: Validation means you agree with the person.
Punishment makes behavior go up or down?
Down
I have keys but no locks, space but no room, and you can enter but you can’t go outside. What am I?
A keyboard
What does the “R” in DEAR stand for?
Reinforce
Being invested in the other person and listening carefully is which GIVE skill?
Interested
If your friend says, “I’m really stressed,” what is one validating response you could say?
“That sounds really overwhelming.”
“I can see why you’d feel that way.”
If you compliment someone for cleaning and they clean again, what is that called?
Reinforcement
I shave every day, but my beard stays the same. Who am I?
A barber
What does the “MAN” stand for?
Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate
Not over-apologizing for having needs is which FAST skill?
No Apologies (A in FAST)
Which DBT skill helps you keep relationships positive and kind?
GIVE
In DEAR MAN, when do you explain the benefits of helping you?
During Reinforce
The more you share me, the less you have. What am I?
A secret
You calmly explain the facts of a situation without opinions. Which DEAR skill are you using?
Describe
Sticking to your values even if pressured is which FAST skill?
Truthful (T in FAST)
Name one way to help someone like you more.
Smile, listen, validate, show interest
Which works better in relationships: rewarding good behavior or punishing bad behavior?
Rewarding good behavior
I’m not alive, but I grow. I don’t have lungs, but I need air. I don’t have a mouth, but water kills me. What am I?
Fire