Clarifying Goals in Interpersonal Situations
When your goal is to keep and improve relationships in the interpersonal situation
What is relationship effectiveness?
When you are able to communicate your needs and opinions to others effectively, you are using this group of skills.
What is DEAR MAN?
Acronym for set of skills to improve or maintain a good relationship with the other person in an interaction, while at the same time trying to obtain your objective
What is GIVE?
The skill that raises your self-respect after an interpersonal interaction
What is FAST?
This is a game you can use to decide how intensely to ask or say no.
What is the dime game?
When your goal is to get what you want from the other person in the interpersonal situation
What is objectives effectiveness?
Asking for what you want and saying no clearly is which letter and skill in DEAR MAN
Assert
When you are interrupting or looking at your cell phone while someone is talking, you are not doing this skill.
What is Act Interested?
This is the skill you are using when you are validating your own feelings as well as the other person's.
What is Be Fair?
What is "timing" an example of?
What is a factor to consider when deciding how firm or intensely you want to be in asking or saying no?
When your goal is to feel good about yourself after the interpersonal situation
What is self-respect effectiveness?
Sticking to the facts and describing the current situation is this skill and letter in DEAR MAN
Describe
When you are being respectful and nice, with no attacks, threats, judging, or sneering, you are using which skill?
What is Be Gentle?
When you are exaggerating or making up excuses, you are not using this skill.
What is Be Truthful?
You have decided to ask and not take no for an answer. This is an example of using _________.
What is high intensity?
This is what happens when you always subvert your personal needs in a relationship
What is blowing up or ending the relationship?
When you are at a stalemate with asking for what you want or saying no, what you can do?
What is negotiate?
When you are smiling and using humor, you are using this skill.
What is Easy Manner?
If you are apologizing for disagreeing or having an opinion, you are not doing this skill
What is No Apologies?
The belief "I shouldn't have to ask (or say no); they should know what I want (and do it)" is a _______.
What is an interpersonal effectiveness myth?
When voicing your opinion and have it taken seriously is the goal.
What is objectives effectiveness?
Sam Shyness is asking Suzie Soulmate out on a date and is doing a pretty good job of using his skills, except he is looking down at his feet and mumbling. What part of DEAR MAN is he forgetting to do?
Appear confident - make eye contact and speak confidently
Each level of the 6 Levels of Validation
What is 1. pay attention 2. reflect back 3. "read minds" 4. understand based on the person's history 5. acknowledge the valid because of current facts 6. show equality?
This skill is the opposite of selling out.
What is Stick to Values?
When you don't know what you want in an interpersonal situation, it is ____________.
What is a factor in the way of interpersonal effectiveness?