Interference with IE
Interference in interpersonal effectiveness means what
Something that is getting in the way of being effective in a relationship
DEAR MAN is used to do this
Obtain an Objective
GIVE is used to do what
Maintain or Build a relationship while getting what you want
FAST skills are used to
Maintain Self-Respect
Is the person required by law to give you what you want? Is what factor
Rights.
What are the three objectives in any interpersonal interaction
Objectives, Relationship, Self-Respect
The acronym DEAR stands for
Describe the situation, Express emotions, Assert what you want, reinforce the other person
be Gentle
F and A in FAST stand for
Be Fair and No Apologies
Not asking for you want to keep the peace but it creates problems in the log run
Long-term vs short term goals
"I dont deserve to get what I want or need." is an example of?
Objective effectiveness Myth
In DEAR MAN, A and N in Man stand for
Appear Confident and Negotiates
The I in GIVE stands for
act Interested
The S and T in FAST stand for
Stick to your values and be truthful
Doing things for yourself is part of what factor?
Self-respect
Why is it important to think about my goal before doing a DEAR?
I need to know my goal in order to understand what effectiveness is most important at the time.
In DEAR MAN, what does the M stand for, and what two things are attached to it
Stay Mindful- Broken Record technique and Ignore Attacks
The V and E in GIVE stand for
Validation and use an Easy Manner
Only giving an apologies when I have done something that is not within my values is what FAST skill
No Appologies
Is the person "in the mood" for listening and paying attention
Timing
Name at least 2 factors that could get in the way of your ability to be successful when using interpersonal effectiveness skills
Don't have skills, You don't know what you want in the interaction, your emotions are getting in the way, You forget long-term goals for short-term goals, Other people are getting in your way, your thoughts and beliefs are getting in your way
Where would I include my opinion in a DEAR MAN?
The E: Express
Name at least 2 of the 6 levels of Validation
Pay attention, Reflect back, "Read Minds," Understand, Acknowledge the valid, Show equality
Is Self-respect effectiveness always needed in any interaction?
Yes, it might not always be the priority
When considering doing a DEAR I should be in what state of mind
Wise mind