Try to spend time in the presence of people who are kind and gentle.
What is Create a Kind Environment?
200
The E in GIVE.
What is (use an) Easy Manner?
300
Keep your focus on what you want, avoiding distractions.
What is Mindful?
300
Smile and use humor.
What is (use) an Easy manner.
300
The S in FAST.
What is Stick to Values?
300
When you find yourself criticizing, step back and say something encouraging to yourself instead.
What is Softness with Self?
300
Lack of skill, worry thoughts, emotions, can't decide, environment.
What STOPS you from achieving your goals?
400
Remember the other person cannot read your mind - ask for what you want clearly.
What is Assert?
400
Don't attack, use threats, or judgments.
What is (be) Gentle?
400
The F in FAST.
What is (be) Fair?
400
Notice when you have thoughts like, "I don't deserve kindness", and step back from it.
What is Deeply Like Yourself?
400
If I care about the person, or the person has authority over me, I act in a way that keeps the person respecting and liking me.
What is GIVE skill?
500
"I feel upset when I can't stay out later with my friends."
(This statement is an example of...)
What is Express?
500
"I can understand that this is really upsetting to you."
(This is an example of...)
What is Validation?
500
It's hard to like yourself in the long haul if you consistently take advantage of the other person.
What is (be) Fair?
500
Accepting that you are human, that you have both failings and accomplishments in your life experiences and that you are inherently both flawed and gifted.
What is Radical Self-Acceptance?
500
I cannot control some things, but I am not helpless.