What skill to use?
This is the skill you want to use when your main priority is maintaining the relationship
What is the GIVE skill
The G in Give
What is Gentle
What is describe the situation?
The F in FAST
Be fair to yourself and to the other person
This is the skill you want to use when your main priority is maintaining self resepect
The I in GIVE
What is show interest in the the other’s perspective
The E in DEARMAN
What is express emotion?
The A in FAST
Apologize appropriately, don’t under or over apologize
Becky often barges into her roommates room, raises her voice, and leans into her face when she is angry about the dishes. What form of communication is this?
This is the skill you want to use to assert yourself, either to say no or to ask for what you want
What is the DEARMAN skill
The V in Give
What is Validation
The A in DEARMAN
Ask for what you want or assert your NO
The S in FAST?
What is Stick to your values?
When Tina confronted her friend about gossiping she looked her friend in the eye, spoke calmly, and did not allow the conversation to to become about something else.
What is assertive communication?
This analogy reminds that all of our priorities are important in any given exchange but we may need to focus one at time, keeping all of our priorities in the air
What is the juggling analogy
The E in Give (think jazz hands)
What is easy manner?
The R in DEARMAN
What is reinforce the benefit of giving what you want or honoring your no is to the other person?
The T in FAST
Be truthful - don’t exaggerate, inflate, or dismiss the truth
When Connie is annoyed about the dishes her roommate leaves in the sink, she starts leaving her dishes in the sink too to teach her roommate a lesson.
What is passive aggressive communication
Tina needs to tell her mother that she doesn’t like the way her stepdad is talking to her. She wants change, she doesn’t want to be treated this way, and she doesn’t want her mother to be angry with her. What is the proper skill to use?
Validate this statement “I have no friends, no one likes me, I am worthless”.
Context: Frank didn’t get invited to join his friends in their homecoming group
It makes sense that you are feeling lonely and rejected. It hurts to not be invited.
What is the MAN part of DEARMAN
What is stay mindful, appear confident, and be willing to negotiate
A great way to acknowledge an apology for wrong doing
Thank you for the apology
Communication that reflects respect for your rights and the rights of the other person
What is assertive communication?