DEARMAN
FAST
GIVE
VALIDATE
INTERPERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
100

When negotiating in DEARMAN it is the most important that I get what I am asking for

False

100

Avoiding extremes and using respectful words is an example of 

Being Fair

100

Saying if you were a good person you would do this for me is an example of being gentle.

False

100

Who can experience and give validation

Ourselves and Others

100

A skill that helps you ask for what you want, keep good relationships and maintain self-respect.

The Definition of Interpersonal effectiveness

200

If I wanted to share how I am feeling, which part of DEARMAN would I use?

Express

200

FAST teaches us how to 

Keeping our own self-respect

200

Balancing our own wants, needs and desire with those of others, using validation and showing genuine interest are ways of...

Building and maintaining relationships

200

Building trust, regulating our emotions, and providing space for others to share are all...

Reasons to validate

200

Using DEARMAN, GIVE, FAST, VALIDATE are ways to...

Resolve Conflict

300

Dearman is the skill used the most for?

Effective communication with others.

300

Apologizing only when you have done something wrong is an important part of FAST.

True

300

A Way that you treat others with kindness and a relaxed attitude 

EASY MANNER

300

Active listening, reflecting back, articulating what may be unsaid, validating in terms of causes, acting on the situation and radical genuineness are..

Levels of Validation

300

She created and founded DBT

Marsha Linehan

400

Examples of this are: We can learn to say no, set boundaries and negotiate. We can assure our wants and needs are met reliably 

Assertiveness

400

Everyone does not have a right to their own beliefs and if you disagree with someone you should be able to tell them why.

False

400

Making eye contact, keeping open posture, active listening are examples of...

Acting Interested

400

Validation means that you have to agree with the person. 

False

400

These listed below are examples of:

1. Not having the skills you need

2. Not knowing what you want

3. Your emotions 

4. Other people

5. Your own thoughts/beliefs

Factors/Things that get in the way

500
Name and describe all 7 aspects of DEARMAN

D- Describe. Just state the facts of the situation using nonjudgmental language.

E- Express. Share your opinions and feelings

A- Assert. Ask clearly for what you want or need, so no or set a boundary.

R- Reinforce. Let others know what is in it for them. Focus on rewards and reinforcement.

M- Be Mindful. Use a broken record approach, repeat requests as needed.

A- Appear Confident. Act as if you feel confident even if you don't

N- Negotiate. Decide how to compromise. Be willing to give to get.

500

Name and describe all four aspects of FAST

F: Be Fair and treat others with respect.

A: No Apologies. Apologize only when necessary

S: Stick to your Values and goals as guides.

T: Be Truthful, be honest and accountable with yourself and others.

500

Name and Describe all four aspects of FAST

G: Be Gentle, be honest and real with others, speak from your heart

I: Act Interested. Actively listen and pause before responding.

V: Validate, nonjudgmentally acknowledged the other person's feelings, thoughts, beliefs and experience. "walk in their shoes"

E: Use and Easy Manner, treat others with kindness and a relaxed attitude.

500

Name and Describe the 8 aspects of Validate

V: Value Others, notice the value in others

A: Ask Questions, questions draw out others' experiences

L: Listen and reflect, listen to their answer

I: Identify with others, see the world through their eyes

D: Discuss emotions, talk about their feelings and how their emotions affect them

A: attend to non-verbal's, what information can you get

T: Turn the mind: Validation does not mean agreeing

E: Encourage participation, fully engage in the process.

500

These examples are...

1. Getting what you want and need from others

2. Build positive and supportive relationships (end destructive one)

3. Walk the Middle Path


THREE MAIN GOALS OF INTERPERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS

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