Choices
You and your brother break a vase while wrestling in the living room. What would you do? A. Agree with your brother not to tell your parent(s). B. Tell your parent(s) that your brother broke the vase. C. Tell your parent(s) you were wrestling with your brother and broke the vase. D. Tell your parent(s) you don’t know how the vase was broken. E. Other: _________________________________________________
C. Tell your parent(s) you were wrestling with your brother and broke the vase.
You were supposed to finish your homework before playing video games, but you chose to play first. Your parent asks if your homework is done. What should you do?
A. Say “Yes” even though it’s not finished.
B. Blame your teacher for giving too much homework.
C. Use your Wise Mind, tell the truth, and say, “I didn’t finish it. I chose to play first.”
D. Get mad and stomp away.
C. Use your Wise Mind, tell the truth, and say, “I didn’t finish it. I chose to play first.”
Clue: This feeling might make your face turn red and your body feel hot.
Angry
What do the letters in "S.T.O.P." stand for?
Stop, freeze
Take a step back, Take a deep breath
Observe yourself, your body, your thoughts, what is happening around you
Proceed mindfully
After coming home from school, you and your sister are supposed to do homework. Your sister refuses to do so, laughs at you, and says, “You can’t make me!” What would you do? A. Get angry and yell at her. B. Remind her of the home rules and consequences. C. Grab her and physically make her stay at the homework. D. Call your parent(s) and tell them about your sister. E. Other: _________________________________________________
Step 1
B. Remind her of the home rules and consequences.
Step 2 ( If step 1 doe not work)
D. Call your parent(s) and tell them about your sister.
You and your friend left a mess in the kitchen and your parent finds it. What should you do?
A. Say your friend did it.
B. Ignore it and go play.
C. Say, “I made this mess. I will clean it up.”
D. Wait for someone else to clean it.
C. Say, “I made this mess. I will clean it up.”
This feeling can make your eyes water and your voice quiet.
Sad
In the ACCEPTS skill, the C stands for Contributing. What are 3 ways you can contribute to others, your household, your school/class?
help clean, do your work, ask others around you if they need help, do your best to take care of yourself, give compliments to others
Your brother is bored and can’t think of anything to play after he gets home from school. He complains to you and annoys you. What would you do? A. Yell at him and tell him to leave you alone. B. Hide so he can’t find you. C. Call your parent(s) and ask them what to do. D. Try to find a game to interest him. E. Other: _________________________________________________
D. Try to find a game to interest him
You started yelling during your brothers’ argument and made it worse. What should you do?
A. Keep yelling so you win.
B. Walk away and never talk about it.
C. Use your STOP skill, calm down, and say, “I made it worse. I’m sorry.”
D. Say it was their fault.
C. Use your STOP skill, calm down, and say, “I made it worse. I’m sorry.”
You feel really mad and want to yell at your friend. What should you do?
A. Yell at your friend right away.
B. Use your STOP skill, take a breath, and say, “I’m feeling mad. I need a minute.”
C. Pretend you’re not mad.
D. Push your friend.
B. Use your STOP skill, take a breath, and say, “I’m feeling mad. I need a minute.”
How do we use our 5 senses to self-soothe?
List things we can see, feel, hear, smell, and taste that are calming to us. Or we can notice things in the moment to ground us to what is happening right now, calming us to focus on the present.
You and your brother are watching a television show, and your brother changes the channel and says, “It’s my turn.” What would you do? A. Hit your brother and change the channel back to your show. B. Call him a name. C. Agree to let him choose the next show if you can finish watching this one. D. Call your parent(s). E. Other: _________________________________________________
C. Agree to let him choose the next show if you can finish watching this one.
You answered the phone and gave a stranger some information before realizing it wasn’t safe. What should you do next?
A. Hide it and hope no one finds out.
B. Blame the caller.
C. Use your Wise Mind and tell a parent or trusted adult what happened.
D. Pretend you didn’t hear them.
C. Use your Wise Mind and tell a parent or trusted adult what happened.
You feel sad because someone didn’t play with you. What should you do?
A. Say, “It’s not fair!” and hit them.
B. Hide and cry alone without telling anyone.
C. Use your Wise Mind and say, “I feel sad. Can we play together?” or tell a trusted adult.
D. Blame the other person for your feelings.
C. Use your Wise Mind and say, “I feel sad. Can we play together?” or tell a trusted adult.
What does T.I.P.P stand for?
Temperature
Intense exercise
Paced breathing
Progressive muscle relaxation
Your teacher blames you for a behavior you were pressured into doing by another student (a sstudent told you to do it) or ( someone blamed you even though you did not do it) what would you do?
A. Yell, “It’s not my fault!” and stomp away.
B. Stay quiet and take the blame even if it’s not true.
C. Take a deep belly breath, calm your body, and politely tell the teacher what really happened.
D. Get mad at the other student and try to get them in trouble.
C. Take a deep belly breath, calm your body, and politely tell the teacher what really happened.
ou and your friend sneaked into your parent’s room. Your parent walks in and catches you. What should you do?
A. Blame your friend and say it was their idea.
B. Run to your room and hide.
C. Use your STOP skill (Stop, Take a breath, Think) and say, “I’m sorry. I made a bad choice.”
D. Say, “It’s not a big deal!”
C. Use your STOP skill (Stop, Take a breath, Think) and say, “I’m sorry. I made a bad choice.”
You feel jealous because your friend got a new toy you don’t have. What should you do?
A. Grab their toy.
B. Tell them, “I’m jealous. Can I play with you anyway?”
C. Say nothing and get upset inside.
D. Break your own toy.
B. Tell them, “I’m jealous. Can I play with you anyway?”
Why do we use Pros and Cons when in difficult situations or experiencing difficult emotions?
To help us think through the pros and cons of using or not using our coping skills and help us make positive choices that will make us, and the people around us feel good. To help ourselves not act impulsively.