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True or False?
Dialectics teach us that there are only one way to solve a problem
False
Give an example of disqualifying positives
Ex: "I only got lucky passing my test"
Define validation
Validation communicates to another person that his or her feelings, thoughts, and actions make sense and are understandable to you in a particular situation.
Not receiving an instant reward is....
Delay Gratification
Labeling
calling yourself/someone names because of a mistake Ex: “I’m grounded, I’m such idiot”
True or false?
Consequences are always negative
False
You predict the future negatively without considering other, more likely outcomes
Catastrophizing (fortunetelling error)
Give 3 examples of how you can validate someone
Active listening, eye contact, staying focused, nodding your head, asking questions and body language
Rewards or incentives to increase the likelihood of a behavior
positive reinforcement
Name five thinking mistakes.
True or False?
Validation DOES NOT equal agreement.
True
Overgeneralization
Define Self-Validation
Self-validation involves perceiving your own feelings, thoughts and actions as making sense, accurate and acceptable in a particular situation.
Instead of saying "everyone treats me unfairly", Say "sometimes I'm treated fairly and other time I am treated unfairly". This is an example of...
Thinking Dialectically
All or nothing/black and white thinking
(provide an example)
It's either all good or all bad, no balance
True or False?
Judging your own emotion is invalidating
True
When we only hear the negative feedback and ignore the positives
Mental Filter
Name 2 reasons why it's important to validate
Validation improves relationships. It can decrease conflict and intense emotions. It shows that we are using active listening, we understand, and we are being nonjudgmental.
Removing something negative to increase positive behaviors
Negative Reinforcement
Emotional Reasoning
provide an example
Assuming own emotions are fact
ex "I failed my test, so I am stupid"
True or False?
The following is an example of a dialectical statement:
"It’s hopeless, I just can't do it"
What is False?
You making mistakes and keep thinking of all the choices you should have made
"Should" statements
Define Invalidation
Invalidation communicated (intentionally or not, through words or actions) that another person's feelings, thoughts and actions in a particular situation make no sense, are manipulative, stupid or an overreaction, or not worthy of your time, interest or respect.
What is a reinforcer?
Reinforcers are consequences that result in an increase in a behavior. They provide information to a person about what you want them to do.
Personalization
(provide an example)
Assume you are the cause of problems that you have no control over
ex- "my parents' divorce was all my fault"