Dialectics
What is "Dialectics"
Two opposing sides that can both be true.
If you have the thought: I should be doing better on this review game.
What thinking mistake is this and give yourself some validation
"should" statement
This game is difficult and I disappointment in myself because I want to do better and it is hard when our actions don't meet our expectations
what is the definition of validation?
communicating that you understand another person's experience and that it makes sense
Give an example of a dialectic
any appropriate response that highlights both sides of an opinion or situation
You want to increase your compliance with healthy eating. How can you use a positive reinforcement to help you?
anything that you add to the environment that will increase eating healthy- i.e. self-rewarding with soothing items etc, or giving yourself praise and compliments
A teenagers bedroom- what is typical and what is not typical?
typical- messy, books and school stuff disorganized, candy wrappers on the ground
atypical- a clean room, rotting food, dirty clothes covering the entire floor chronically
Name 1 dialectical dilemma that occurs in families?
Bonus: a teenager is asking for a latter curfew, how can your dilemma apply to that situation, and how can you hold both sides to be more dialectical?
1 of the 3:
too loose, to strict
making like of problem behaviors, making too much of typical behaviors
fostering dependence and forcing independence
you want to teach your dog to roll over. you are really stuck and decide to try a shaping plan. lay it out for us.
any plan that includes incremental steps that are reinforced along the way
why does punishment not work very well?
it works to suppress behavior while the punishes is around and does not teach a replacement behavior, it can lead to resentment and feeling demoralized
My friend didn't text me back last night and I am worried she may be upset with me. I think she must really hate me.
Is there a thinking mistake here? If so, what is it?
yes, mind reading and emotional reasoning
You were excited about a project and had worked really hard on it. Your teacher/boss gave you negative feedback and you got a poor grade.
Provide self-validation
expressing care to self that your emotions make sense in the moment (sadness, disappointment) without problem solving
Name one thing Validation is 'NOT'
Bonus- why do we give validation?
Options include -Validation is NOT necessarily agreeing with the other person, Validation is NOT liking or approving of something, Validation is Not giving in
Provide 3 examples of ways to think or act dialectically.
Possible answers include: let go of extremes, balance opposites, move to both and thinking, looks at all sides of the situation and points of view, use "I" statements instead of "you" statements, look for alternatives
your friend does not like the school's push for recycling and is sharing that she is feeling really annoyed and angry that the teachers keep encouraging them to recycle. you are really excited about the change and highly support recycling. Provide validation to your friend.
anything that validates her experience of frustration or lack of freedom around recycling.
What is the difference between positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement. give an example of each
positive reinforcement- adding something to increase a behavior - yay!
negative reinforcement- taking something away to increase a behavior- relief
bonus- what is the difference between positive punishment and negative punishment?