The Basics
True or False:
You should assume that others know what you feel.
What does the letter "D" stand for in DEAR MAN?
Describe.
What is 1 thing you should do to appear confident?
Use eye contact. Use a confident tone of voice.
True or False:
Name calling and insults are a good way to express how you feel.
False.
What does the letter "E" stand for in DEAR MAN?
Express.
Which is more descriptive?
A: "I want to discharge because I have continuously attended groups, have not gotten into any fights, and have taken my medication consistently."
OR
B: "I need to discharge because I've been really good."
A
Who can you use the DEAR MAN skill with?
Anyone!
What does the letter "A" stand for in DEAR MAN?
Assert.
When you let the other person know specifically what it is that you need directly and clearly you are using what part of DEAR MAN?
Describe.
What is the primary goal of using DEAR MAN skills?
To get what we want or to say "no".
What does the letter "R" stand for in DEAR MAN?
Reinforce.
Mindful.
What should you stick to when describing the situation?
The facts.
What do the letters "MAN" stand for in DEAR MAN?
Mindful. Appear Confident. Negotiate.
When you compromise on your needs and the other persons needs to create a win/win situation you are using what part of DEAR MAN?
Negotiate.