Goals
DEARMAN
all of the stuff
trivia
mental health trivia
100

True or false: Getting What You Want From Another Person looks like getting another person to stop doing what they are already doing and do something for you.

What is false

100

ASKING for what you want or SAYING NO clearly. Do not assume that others will figure out what you want. Remember that others cannot read your mind.

a. describe

b. express

c. assert

d. reinforce

What is c. assert

100

Offer and ask for other solutions to the problem. Reduce your request. Say no, but offer to do something else or to solve the problem another way. Focus on what will work.

a. stay mindful

b. describe

c. appear confident

d. negotiate

What is d. negotiate

100

What color are Flamingoes born as?

What is Flamingoes aren’t born pink. They actually come into the world with grey/white feathersand only develop a pinkish hue after starting a diet of brine shrimp and blue-green algae.

100

You remember more dreams when you sleep good or bad. 

What is bad?

200

Acting in such a way that the other person keeps liking and respecting you.

a. objectives effectiveness

b. relationship effectiveness

c. self-respect effectiveness

d. none of the above

What is b. relationship effectiveness

200

______ your FEELINGS and OPINIONS about the situation. Don’t assume that the other person knows how you feel.  “When you come home so late, I start worrying about you.” Use phrases such as “I want” instead of “You should,”

a. describe

b. express

c. assert

d. reinforce

What is b. express

200

Maintain your position. Don’t be distracted. Don’t get off the topic. “Broken record”:  Keep asking, saying no, or expressing your opinion over and over and over. Just keep replaying the same thing again and again.

a. stay mindful

b. describe

c. appear confident

d. negotiate

What is a. stay mindful

200

Animals can be allergic to what other animal?

What is humans.

200

About 90% of brain development takes place by age _____

What is 5

300

Acting in a way that makes you feel capable and effective.

a. objectives effectiveness

b. relationship effectiveness

c. self-respect effectiveness

d. none of the above

What is c. self-respect effectiveness

300

______ the person ahead of time (so to speak) by explaining positive effects of getting what you want or need. If necessary, also clarify the negative consequences of not getting what you want or need.

a. describe

b. express

c. assert

d. reinforce

What is d. reinforce

300

Which is the correct way to describe a current interaction: 

“You keep asking me over and over, even though I have already said no several times,” or

“You obviously don’t want to hear what I am saying”

What is “You keep asking me over and over, even though I have already said no several times,”

300

How old is the Earth?

Earth is 4.54 billion years old.

300

You could _______ when you're anxious to alert others.

(physical reaction)

What is sweat?

400

Saying no to an unwanted or unreasonable request.

a. objectives effectiveness

b. relationship effectiveness

c. self-respect effectiveness

d. none of the above

What is a. objectives effectiveness

400

EFFECTIVE and competent. Use a confident voice tone and physical manner; make good eye contact.

a. stay mindful

b. describe

c. appear confident

d. negotiate

What is c. appear confident

400

Yes or No: Is this a correct way to assert wishes in a situation: “You should really calm down and do what’s right here.”

What is no, it should be: “Please don’t ask me again. My answer won’t change,” or “OK, let’s stop discussing this now and pick it up again sometime tomorrow”

400

All mammals get _______. 

(physical reaction)

what is goosebumps

400

Some animals display ______-like traits.

(mental health disorder)

What is autistic

500

Objectives Effectiveness: Name 1 reason for Getting What You Want From Another Person. (from the slides)

What is:

•Obtaining your legitimate rights.

•Getting another person to do something you want that person to do.

•Saying no to an unwanted or unreasonable request.

•Resolving an interpersonal conflict.

•Getting your opinion or point of view taken seriously.

500

What does DEARMAN stand for?

•Describe

•Express

What is

•Assert

•Reinforce

•(Stay) Mindful

•Appear Confident

•Negotiate

500

Name 1 of the ways to APPLY DEARMAN skills?

(hint: 4 ways)

What is:

Express feelings or opinions about the interaction.

Describe the current interaction.

Assert wishes in the situation.

Reinforce.

500

Why do dogs tilt their heads?

Dogs tilt their heads when you speak to them to better pinpoint familiar words.

500

Martial artists who ______ before the start of a match are more likely to lose.

What is smile