Mindfulness
Do 5,4,3,2,1 right now
5 things you see
4 things you feel
3 things you hear
2 things you smell
1 thing you taste
When would you use distract skills?
Whenever you are overwhelmed in emotion mind; whenever you cannot problem solve or ‘fix’ the issue
What are ways to build mastery?
Whatever skills or things you do that cause you to feel confident, things that come easy for you or you are skilled at.
What are boundaries?
They are what is okay and not okay for people and situations.
Your environment is this when it tells you what you feel and think is wrong.
An invalidating environment.
Use 4 words to describe emotion mind
Urgency, intense, reactive, needs-based, hard to think beyond 10 minutes, forgets consequences
What is radical acceptance?
Accept the facts of reality instead of using precious energy to fight reality.
What is Cope Ahead?
Creating a plan of DBT skills in preparation for distressing situations that might come up.
What are the differences between passive, aggressive and assertive?
Passive: Others are more important than I am
Assertive: Others and I are equally important
Aggressive: I am more important than others
True or False:
It is possible to validate someone when you totally disagree with their point of view.
True
Name 3 defusion metaphors
Sushi train, letting balloons go, leaves in a river, watching clouds, crawl out of a box, closing a door, getting on/off a bus
What is the skill when we continually choose to radically accept hard things?
Turn the Mind
How do you “Check the Facts?”
What is the Emotion I want to change?
What is the Event Prompting My Emotion?
What are my interpretations, thoughts, and assumptions about the event?
Am I assuming a threat?
Does the Emotion and/or its Intensity Fit the Facts?
What are ways you can show someone you are listening/interested in them?
Be gentle
Act interested
Validate
Use an Easy Manner
Eye contact
Ask questions
Reflect what they say
Emotions do this for us
Motivate us for action, communicate to others, and communicate to ourselves.
Use 4 words to describe reason mind
Pros/Cons, facts, research-based, setting goals, long-term, numb, planning ahead, shut off any feelings and values, physical/medical symptoms
What does TIPP stand for?
T- Temperature
I- Intense Exercise
P- Paced Breathing
P- Paired Muscle Relaxation
What should you do if your emotion does not “fit the facts”?
Use distress tolerance skills to try to calm down enough to find wise mind. Then make choices based in wise mind.
What does G.I.V.E. stand for?
Be gentle
Act interested
Validate
Use an Easy Manner
What skills should I use:
I feel like I can never do anything right, and I’m not good at anything.
Accumulate positive experiences, build mastery, distract, self-soothe, opposite to current emotion, defusion
Do a defusion square for “I feel so worthless.”
I am so worthless because… (I can’t do anything right)
I am so worthless
I feel so worthless
I’m noticing the feeling “I feel so worthless”
Give an example of Opposite to current emotion
Also known as “opposite action,” this skill is what we do when our emotions and/or its intensity do not match the facts of the situation.
How can you I.M.P.R.O.V.E the moment?
Imagery
Meaning
Prayer
Relaxation
One Thing in the Moment
Vacation
Encouragement
What are the steps of D.E.A.R. M.A.N.?
Describe the facts
Express your feelings with I statements
Assert/ask for what you want/don’t want
Reinforce the relationship
Mindful and stay in the moment
Assertive/look confident
Negotiate; help everyone get what they want
What skills should I use?
In the middle of an argument with my partner, I want to just leave the situation and walk away.
D.E.A.R. M.A.N., Distract with ACCEPTS, defusion, FAST