Punishment
Which of the following best describes punishment in parenting?
A. A consequence that teaches responsibility through cooperation
B. A reactive measure meant to stop behavior through fear or discomfort
C. A reward used to encourage good behavior
D. A natural outcome of a child’s choices
A. A consequence that teaches responsibility through cooperation
Which one is true?
A. Rewards always create intrinsic motivation
B. Rewards can work short-term but may reduce internal motivation
C. Rewards guarantee long-term positive behavior
D. Rewards prevent sibling rivalry
B. Rewards can work short-term but may reduce internal motivation
Which idea describes “mistaken goals” in child behavior?
A. Children deliberately plan manipulative acts
B. Children misbehave to fulfill hidden unmet needs
C. Children misbehave because they enjoy conflict
D. Children simply lack skills and knowledge
B. Children misbehave to fulfill hidden unmet needs
What is a natural consequence?
A. A parent-designed punishment
B. A reward tied to the parent’s approval
C. The direct outcome of a child’s own choices
D. A planned disciplinary technique
C. The direct outcome of a child’s own choices
True of False: A child will learn independence when they get punished frequently.
False!
Children may feel resentment and act out
Is offering praise describing the child’s effort a reward?
NO
A child seeking undue attention may:
A. Withdraw from everyone
B. Pick fights to gain power
C. Interrupt constantly or cling
D. Try to hurt feelings for revenge
C. Interrupt constantly or cling
Which scenario best demonstrates a natural consequence?
A. Child refuses to wear a coat; child feels cold outside
B. Child leaves toys out; parent takes toys away
C. Child doesn’t listen; parent imposes a timeout
D. Child argues; parent removes screen time
A. Child refuses to wear a coat; child feels cold outside
Which example best represents punishment?
A. Child forgets homework; teacher gives reduced grade
B. Child hits sibling; parent removes dessert for a week
C. Child spills water; towel is provided to clean it up
D. Child completes chores; parent praises them
B. Child hits sibling; parent removes dessert for a week
Why can rewards become problematic over time?
A. Children forget about them
B. Children may start focusing only on the prize
C. They always cost too much
D. They make children misbehave more
Children may start focusing only on the prize
A child with a power mistaken goal often reacts to limits by:
A. Complying quickly
B. Becoming passive
C. Arguing, defying, or saying “You can’t make me!”
D. Crying silently and withdrawing
C. Arguing, defying, or saying “You can’t make me!”
Why are natural consequences effective?
A. They require no supervision
B. They teach cause and effect in a respectful way
C. They ensure immediate obedience
D. They eliminate all frustration
B. They teach cause and effect in a respectful way
Daily Double!!!
A Tiger mom/dad would use this form of discipline.
Yes!
Because high-achievement by any means necessary is the end goal.
True or False:
Rewards and Motivators/Incentives are the same thing.
No, but Related
Rewards: given afterwards/tangible item/recognize and celebrate/bonus
Motivators: established beforehand/earned
Which mistaken goal is associated with a child thinking “I can’t do anything right” and giving up?
A. Undue attention
B. Revenge
C. Power
D. Assumed inadequacy
D. Assumed inadequacy
When should natural consequences not be used?
A. When the consequence is safe and minor
B. When the parent wants a quick fix
C. When the natural consequence is dangerous
D. When the child is old enough to understand
A. When the consequence is safe and minor
Why does punishment often fail to create lasting behavior change?
A. It focuses on the problem behavior
B. It teaches children what to do next time
C. It encourages understanding of consequences
D. It focuses on compliance rather than skill-building
D. It focuses on compliance rather than skill-building
Which scenario shows a child becoming reward-dependent?
A. They clean their room only when told how to do it
B. They ask, “What do I get if I do it?” before helping
C. They clean their room daily without being reminded
D. They help because it feels good to contribute
B. They ask, “What do I get if I do it?” before helping
A good strategy for parents would always to be more curious then judgemental.
Yes!
"tell me more"
-active listening
-empathy
True or False:
A helicopter parent/lawnmower/snowplow parent would always use natural consequences.
No!
They do the work for them, they remove obstacles so children never learn consequences to their actions.