Things That Are in My Control
Hitting someone else
Going for a bike ride
Eating dinner
Yelling at the top of my lungs
Pushing someone I love
What are My Actions?
My mom wouldn’t hug my dad when she got home
My dad tucked me into bed
My mom and dad fight in front of me
My mom and dad eat dinner with me every night
My dad moved out
My mom hugged me really tight yesterday morning, but she didn’t today
What are My Parent's Actions?
I pushed a friend but regretted it and felt sad when they got seriously hurt
I lied and couldn’t stop thinking about the trouble it caused for my parents
I yelled at my mom and blame myself for her wanting to move out
I hit someone at school, but felt really bad when I got in trouble
What is Guilty?
I used the four breathing method to calm down after my mom yelled at me
I touched 5 objects and smelled 4 things to ground myself
I used belly breathing to feel less overwhelmed after an attack
I hugged my friend and steadied my breathing to theirs
I pet my dog to calm down
What are Physical Techniques?
My parents don’t spend time together
My parents sleep in separate beds
My parents no longer live together
What is Separation?
Complimenting a friend on their hair
Telling my parent I hate them
Asking for help with how I feel
Asking to be treated with respect
Saying I want to leave because I am scared
Voicing my opinion
Bragging about my new clothes
What are My Words?
Mom and dad had a really long talk with me about their feelings about each other
Mom hasn’t talked to me for a week
My dad asked me how my day was
My mom yelled at me, even though I wasn’t doing anything wrong
My dad keeps saying bad things about my mom
My mom is asking me to keep secrets from my dad
What are My Parent's Words?
Someone cut me in line and I couldn’t stop thinking about how it was unfair
My mom yelled at me and at first I felt hurt, but the hurt turned into a stronger emotion and I wanted to get back at her
My dad took away something of mine to punish me and I couldn’t stop thinking about how he wronged me
What is Angry?
I broke sticks to let out my anger
I spit outside over and over because I was disgusted
I listened to sad music and cried
I screamed outside because I felt overwhelmed
I ripped up paper because I felt destructive
I danced around my room because I felt happy
I put ice on my hands because I felt numb
What is Connecting With My Emotions?
People enjoy being together and want to be together for a long time
People want to profess their love in front of their loved ones and legally
What is Marriage?
Intentionally sabotaging a competitor
Making time to ask my friends how they feel
Purposefully being hurtful with my words because I’m angry
Making more work for someone else, because I didn’t clean up
Interrupting my friends and family because I have something more important to say
Taking on extra responsibility to help out someone who is struggling
What is How I Treat Others?
My mom cried because of something my dad said last week
My mom gets really excited when I make stuff for her
My mom gets angry really easily, she didn’t used to
My dad tells me he doesn’t love my mom anymore
My dad is really happy when he sees his brother
My dad doesn’t want to live with us anymore
My mom isn’t happy sleeping in the same room as my dad
What are My Parents' Feelings?
My friend got a better bike than me and I felt upset
My sister got a new toy that I wanted, so I wish she didn’t have it
My mom spends a lot of time with her new boyfriend, but I feel like I’m entitled to that time
What is Jealous?
I asked my mom to help me figure out what emotion I was feeling
I texted into a crisis hotline because I was having a panic attack
I asked to see my therapist because I was feeling sad every day
I told a friend about what my mom said to me and walked her through what happened
I asked to stay with my aunt because I missed being around my mom
I asked my therapist for a list of ways to calm down because I was feeling anxious
What is Finding Support?
My parents no longer enjoy being together and want to end their marriage
My parent’s marriage is no longer making them both happy and they want to legally end their marriage
What is Divorce?
When I felt hurt, I yelled at someone
When someone yelled at me, I cried and left without saying anything
When someone hugged me, I pulled away
When I fell, I got back up and kept going
When my parent said something mean, I told them that they hurt my feelings
When my parents were fighting, I left the room
When I felt scared, I thought about something I learned in therapy that calmed me down
What is How I React?
Mom and dad don’t want to live together anymore, but I want to live with both of them
Mom wants to move to a different state, but I don’t want to leave my friends
My dad got a new job and we have to go to a new country, this scares me
My mom doesn’t feel ready to live with me, so I have to live alone with my dad
My dad wants me to live with him, but I want to live with my mom
My dad upsets me and I don’t want to live with him anymore, but he can’t move out
What is Where I Live?
My mom checked on me last night to make sure I felt safe
My dad made me my favorite breakfast before he went to work
My sister gave me a big hug and I felt warm
What is Loved?
I took a warm bath
I asked my mom to style my hair the way I like
I went for a long walk
I played with my favorite stuffed animals
I watched an episode of my favorite T.V. show
I re-read my favorite book
What is Relaxing?
My mom is spending more time outside the house
My dad is having other women over while my mom is home
My mom hangs out with someone else more than she hangs out with my other parent and I
What is Dating?
My mom doesn’t pack my lunch in the morning anymore because she lives farther from work now
I have to do my own laundry when I stay with my dad
I have to spend every other week at a new house
I have to wake up an hour earlier to get to my new school
What are Family Routines?
I heard a door slam and my heart started racing
My dad started yelling and I wanted to run away
I was watching a movie and a monster made me jump out of my seat
What is Scared?
My mom loves me even if I make her mad every day
My dad loves me even if I mess everything up
My mom loves me no matter how many times I get in trouble at school
My mom loves me forever, no matter what happens
My dad loves me in his own way, no matter what he says
What is Unconditional Love?