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What is the definition of domestic violence/abuse?
A pattern of behavior where one partner uses power and control tactics (violence, threats, punishment, withholding something, etc.) over the other partner in order to make them act/do/be the way the abuser wants them to act/do/be.
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How many women are abused at some point in their lives?
1 out of every three women will experience abuse in a relationship.
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How many children witness domestic abuse in their homes each year?
3 to 10 million
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Can abuse cause medical problems?
Yes, miscarriage, abdominal pain, gastrointestinal problems, neurological disorders, chronic pain, disability, anxiety, traumatic brain injury, hypertension, cancer, cardiovascular disease, and post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) have all been linked to domestic abuse.
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Why is it so hard to leave him?

Love, finances, children, pets, faith, nowhere to go, shame, guilt, fear of being alone, fear of death or increased danger, and many other reasons.

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Name some warning signs of someone who could potentially be an abuser.

Jealousy, possessiveness, easily angered, blames others for problems, gets quickly involved in relationships, lack of trust, hypersensitive, verbal abuse,  believes that "the man wears the pants", Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality, breaking objects, hurting other people (past girlfriends), hurting animals, isolates victim from friends and family
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What age group is at greatest risk for being abused?
Women between the ages of 18 and 24.
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What are children at risk of in homes where there is domestic abuse?
Higher rates of violence towards the children, learning to solve disagreements with physical force, much more likely to grow up to become abusers and victims themselves.
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What mental health issues are domestic abuse correlated with?

Depression and suicidal behavior.

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How many women have been raped by an intimate partner in their lifetime?
1 in 5 women have been raped by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
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What is important to create for yourself, your children, and your pets, if you are in a violent relationship?
A safety plan can be helpful to think through various situations that could result in violence and have escape plans ready, prepare the children to go to a neighbor's and call 911, have documents and other things ready in case you have to leave.  If separated, drive different ways to work, document any evidence that may be considered abusive or harassing, think about obtaining an order of protection.
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The presence of a gun in the home where domestic abuse takes place increases the risk of murder by what percentage?
500%.
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Does being pregnant affect domestic abuse?
Yes, pregnant women are more likely to be abused than other women.  Violence often first appears during pregnancy.  
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When is the risk of injury and death highest in an abusive relationship?
When the victim attempts to or leaves her partner.
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Who experiences domestic abuse?
Anyone of any age, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender, religion, or nationality although domestic abuse affects Native American women as much as 50% higher than in other races.
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What are the typical phases that most abusive relationships go through?
Building up of tension


Violence occurs

Things return to "normal"

Tension starts building again

Violence occurs  

Things back to "normal"

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What are women who are abused at higher risk of?
Substance abuse and Sexually Transmitted Diseases.
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Are pets more likely to be abused when domestic abuse is happening in the home?
Yes, they are vulnerable to the abuse just as children are.  Many victims will not leave their homes out of concern for what will happen to their pets.
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What would you seek in a healthy relationship?
Equality, honesty, openness, fairness, respect, trust, support, respecting each other's privacy
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How many women are murdered by their partner or ex-partner everyday?

An average of 3 women are murdered everyday by their partners or ex-partners in the US.
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Can abusers change?


Sometimes but most often not and especially if there is no outside intervention. 


Usually the abuse worsens over time.  Some abusers may be able to change with the help of professional therapy and group treatment.  

Couple or marital counseling is not recommended.

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How many domestic abuse incidents are reported to police?
In New Mexico, only about 41% of all incidents are reported to police.
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How does domestic abuse affect children?
May develop physical symptoms, sleep problems, nightmares, wetting the bed, acting out, poor schoolwork, withdrawal, "feeling different" than their peers, may feel low self esteem at not being able to help mom. 
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What characteristics would you want the father of your children to have?
Trust, respect, support, kindness
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What things are important to you in a relationship?
Open answer.