Domestic Violence
Anger is normal/ being consumed by anger or being driven to commit acts of aggression or retaliation because of anger, is not. It is your responsibility to recognize this and take action to stop it.
What is the 15 Commandments of STOP
Anger is defined in the dictionary as “the emotion that you feel when you think that someone has behaved in an unfair, cruel, or unacceptable way.” SAMHSA recognizes anger, in the most general sense, is a feeling or emotion that ranges from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Many people often confuse anger with aggression. Aggression is the behavior that is intended to cause harm or injury to another person or damage to property. Hostility, on the other hand, refers to a set of attitudes and judgements that motivate aggressive behaviors.
What is ANGER ?
Freely Given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, specific
What are the basics of Consent?
Arrange school age children to receive counseling from professionals at their school, often school counselors.
What is Solutions to Children Who have Witnessed DV?
a person lacks the capacity to give Consent to sexual activity because the person is asleep, unconscious, mentally and/or physically
helpless, or otherwise unaware that sexual activity is occurring.
What is INCAPACITATION ?
The physical abuse consists of any committed physical contact against another person with the intention to hurt, to scare or to intimidate. These contacts include, but they are not limited to touch, push, pull, slap or striking a person. This abuse is used to control or to exert a form of control against another person and includes, but not limited to the use of bodily size and the volume or tone of voice to accomplish exercising power or control over the victim.
What is Physical Abuse?
it is felt too intensely, is felt too frequently or is expressed inappropriately. Feeling anger too intensely or frequently places extreme physical strain on the body.
What is ANGER BECOMING A PROBLEM?
What is HANDLING CRITICISM?
Children who witness domestic violence in the home should be assessed for the physical effects and physical injuries. Some physical findings may be difficult to evaluate, like changes in their eating habits,sleep patterns, or bowel patterns should be further examined or questioned by someone whom they trust.
What is ASSESSMENT?
A 1980 non-fiction book by Faith McNulty about battered housewife Francine Hughes, and a 1984 TV-movie adaptation written by Rose Leiman Goldemberg. The plot follows Hughes' trial for the murder of her husband, James Berlin "Mickey" Hughes, following her setting fire to the bed he was sleeping in at their Dansville, Michigan home on March 9, 1977, and thirteen years of physical domestic abuse at his hands.
What is the Burning Bed?
intentional/willful infliction of corporal injury is another California domestic violence charge. You commit this offense if you willfully inflict bodily injury on intimate partners. The major difference between this offense and domestic/spousal battery is that intentional infliction of corporal injury requires that you actually cause some kind of injury to the accuser.
What is PENAL CODE 273.5?
One misconception or myth about anger is that the way people express anger is inherited and cannot be changed. Evidence from research studies, however, indicates that people are not born with a set and specific manner of expressing anger. Rather, these studies show that the expression of anger is a learned behavior and that better and more appropriate ways of expressing anger can also be learned.
What is ANGER INHERITED?
To avoid criticizing or placing blame — which might only increase tension — use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes," instead of, "You never do any housework."
Depression is a common problem for children who experience domestic violence. The child often feels helpless and powerless. More girls internalize their emotions and show signs of depression than boys.Boys are more apt to act out with aggression and hostility. Witnessing
What is Depression with Children who witness DV?
A woman meets a charming man and falls in love, they get married and start a family. As they age and have children, the man's becomes violent and abusive.
What is SOLO MIA?
Understand that your partner has rights to financial resources under the laws and provisions of Community Property of California.
Recognize your partner is the person with whom you are involved, that you have affection and it does not benefit the family to deprive loved one’s access to money or other goods. Give responsible access to goods and services, accounts and/or values. Be able to speak frankly with each other respectfully and with dignity regarding finances and the handling of money.
What is TO STOP ECONOMIC ABUSE?
a basic anger management strategy that may help everyone’s anger.
What is TIME OUTS?
Increased awareness of self-talk, physical cures, and emotions are essential for progress and improvement.
What is the NINE RULES TO LIVE BY?
general aches and pain,
Somatic headaches and stomach aches
irritable and irregular bowel habits
cold sores, stress reactions
may have problems with bed-wetting
What are PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS of DV ON CHILDREN?
Threat is an expression of intention to inflict pain, injury, emotional harm, damage to one's reputation, or other hostile action on someone in retribution for something done or not done.
What is THREAT?
Penal Code 243(e)(1) PC Under California's domestic battery law, Penal Code 243(e)(1) PC,1 the legal definition of domestic battery is any willful and unlawful touching that is harmful or offensive—and is committed against the defendant's spouse or former spouse, the defendant's cohabitant or former cohabitant, the defendant's fiancé(e) or former fiancé(e),a person with whom the defendant has or used to have a dating relationship, or the father or mother of the defendant's child.2
What is California Domestic Battery Law?
a simple way to monitor your anger using a scale from 1 to 10
What is an ANGER METER?
This gives people the psychological strength to cope with stress and calamity. Individuals are better able to handle such adversity and rebuild their lives after a catastrophe
What is RESILIENCE?
Fetal death can occur due to the mother's physical trauma and emotional stress. Increased maternal stress during the times of abuse, especially when combined with smoking and drug abuse, can also lead to premature deliveries and low weight babies.
What is PRENATAL CHILD?
Holly Burns returns from church on Christmas Eve to find her son Ben in the driveway; he has been in rehab for prescription drug addiction for some months, and says his sponsor said a trip home would be good for him. Happy to see him but Holly is also wary, as she does not want his instability to affect the other children. She agrees lets him stay for 24 hours only if he does not leave her sight.
What is Ben is Back?
Honeymoon, Tension Building, Acute Explosion and Denial
What is the Cycle of Abuse?
1. You can stuff it!
2. You can escalate it!
3. Or you can direct it!
What is CONTROLLING ANGER?
Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time- Oriented.
What are SMART GOALS?
PROVIDING clear direction for personal growth is a valuable skill to learn and we can teach it to others. Using a time-tested method we see five characteristics of effective goal setting provides a logical framework from which to start the process. Before using the five points, start by considering your personal mission for the year – like a personal business plan and overall long-term growth development plan. What milestones would you like to achieve in the next year? What areas are you doing to focus on? Would you like to increase your income? What areas should you be setting goals in to help you get unstuck and move forward in your life plan?
Physiological, Safety, Belongingness, Esteem, Self Actualization
What is Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs?
is the most underreported form of sexual assault. Only 36% of all rape victims ever report the crime to police, and the percentage of married women who report a spousal rape is even lower.
What is Marital Rape?
Realize that violence is an escalating dynamic that begins with words. Recognize the purpose of not wanting to hurt those who are dear and loved people in your life.
2. Make it your habit to speak in low and respectful tones.
3. Respect your partner, do not threaten or dismiss, put down or demean your loved one.
4. Communicate verbally how you feel instead of speaking of how she/he thinks or feels the other person involved feels and thinks. (Do not use accusatory phrases. Do not assume you know what your partner thinks. THINK ABOUT THIS STATEMENT.)
5. Do Not say anything to hurt, to cause pain or shame, despise, or degrade your partner.
6. Treat each other the same way as when you were courting at the beginning of the relationship when you put effort into the new relationship.
What is to CONTROL VERBAL ABUSE?
Activating Event, Beliefs, Emotional Consequence, Dispute
What is the ABCD Model in Cognitive Restructuring?
What is FACTORS THAT CONTRIBUTE TO RESILIENCE?
Is always honest and speaks confidently. He actively engages in the situation and deals directly with the problem. Such behavior is often considered as superior and a better method of dealing with situations.
What is Assertive Behavior?
A documentary film by Olivia Klaus that offers a unique gateway into the lives of women who are the tragedies living worst-case scenarios and survivors - women who have killed their abusive husbands. Based on the first inmate-initiated and led support group in the entire United States prison system, the film reveals the history and stories of the members of the group Convicted Women Against Abuse created by inmate Brenda Clubine in 1989.
What is SIN BY SILENCE?
Sexual abuse consists of making sexual contact without permission and against one’s will or person or by means of threats, coercion or intimidation. “Sexual” is defined here as any contact with any part of the body. “Against the Will” refers to a person who has said no or indicated they do not want sexual contact
What is SEXUAL ABUSE?
1. an understanding of what a time out is
2. a trusted person you can talk to that is safe
3. some kind of physical activity
4. options to go to a 12-step meeting
5. time spent reflecting on oneself on the
primary feelings beneath anger.
What is an ANGER CONTROL PLAN?
Abused children are 25% more likely to experience teen pregnancy. 6
Abused teens are more likely to engage in sexual risk taking, putting them at greater risk for STDs. 6
About 30% of abused and neglected children will later abuse their own children, continuing the horrible cycle of abuse.
In at least one study, about 80% of 21-year old’s that were abused as children met criteria for at least one psychological disorder.
The financial cost of child abuse and neglect in the United States is estimated at $585 billion.
What are Child Abuse Consequences?
Characterized by overall or specific area(s) of delayeddevelopment, signs of terror, yelling, irritable behavior, hiding, shaking, stuttering, clinging to the caretaker, somatic complaints, and regression to earlier stages of functioning. Children may become protective of their mother and other family members.
What is Effects of Domestic violence on Children –
Summary by Age Group:
Dan Millman is a university student as well as a locally famous gymnast who dreams of winning a National Championship competition. He suffers from restlessness, and on one occasion, Dan attempts to compensate for the restlessness by running along streets before sunrise. At a car-service station, he encounters an old man who seems to know more about Dan's problem than Dan himself knows, whom Dan later nicknames "Socrates"
What is Peaceful Warrior?
Distressing Demands, The IS of Identity, Awfulness Thinking, The Indefinite Referent, Crisis Creation and A common Thread
What are the 5 Mental Traps Relationships can't escape?
Depression, poor self-esteem, and anxiety are often the result of irrational negative thoughts. Someone who regularly receives positive feedback at work might feel that they are horrible at their job because of one criticism. Their irrational thoughts about job performance will dictate how they feel about themselves. Challenging irrational thoughts can help us change them.
What is CHALLENGING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS?
Day, Event Intensity, Thinking, Feeling, Action, Grade
What is ANGER JOURNAL?
Alcohol abuse (parent/caregiver)—the compulsive use of alcohol that is not of a temporary nature. 1
Drug abuse (parent/caregiver)—the compulsive use of drugs that is not of a temporary nature. 1
Domestic violence (parent/caregiver)–abusive, violent, coercive, forceful, or threatening act or word inflicted by one member of a family or household on another. 1
What is Child Abuse Risk Factors?
is any sexual intercourse with a child and in most states sexual relations even with
consent involving a girl 14 to 18 (with some variation on ages in a few states) on the basis that the girl
is unable to give consent.
What is Statutory Rape?