1st Agreement
What does “impeccable” mean in the context of the First Agreement?
Without fault; speaking with integrity.
According to Ruiz, the reason why others treat us negatively is because of this.
Their own internal issues—the way others act is a reflection of their own reality, not yours.
To avoid making assumptions, you must ask more of these.
Questions—asking clarifying questions helps you get direct answers rather than assuming.
Doing this every day gives you the best chance at applying all Four Agreements.
Doing your best—committing to consistent effort regardless of the challenges.
These two factors shape how you see the world and influence your values.
Cultural background and personal life experiences.
Name two examples of being impeccable with your word.
Using positive affirmations and speaking kindly to others.
When you stop taking things personally, these three emotions are said to disappear.
Anger, jealousy, and envy (often accompanied by reduced sadness).
This saying explains the value of asking questions rather than staying confused.
"You are a fool once if you ask a question, but remain a fool forever if you don’t.”
Your “best” can change daily due to these factors.
Factors such as energy levels, emotional state, and circumstances, meaning your best effort may vary from day to day.
The difference between spirituality and religion lies in this main idea.
Spirituality focuses on your personal journey and subjective experience, whereas religion involves organized practices and doctrines.
True or False: Gossiping is acceptable as long as it’s true.
False
This agreement encourages us to consider this when others behave poorly, such as stress, lack of sleep, or personal hardship.
The external factors in their lives—remembering that their behavior is influenced by their circumstances and past experiences.
Instead of vague requests, use this type of language to clearly state your needs.
Direct language—using clear, unambiguous requests rather than passive statements.
Ruiz says children are born with these three natural traits before being conditioned.
Loving, playful, and genuine—attributes that get conditioned out over time.
Name two life factors that influence the development of spiritual beliefs.
Life experiences (such as trauma or triumph) and education/exposure to different philosophies.
“When you (action), I feel (emotion)” is an example of a _______ statement.
"I" statement
Ruiz says becoming immune to this leads to emotional freedom.
Other people’s opinions and actions—by not taking them personally, you are less affected by external judgments.
At work, especially in this profession, assumptions can literally be life or death.
In the medical profession—where clarity is critical to patient care.
This is the key to breaking the unconscious cycle of limiting beliefs.
Becoming aware of, and then replacing, irrational and limiting beliefs with healthy, empowering thoughts.
These three practices—often used in spiritual growth—include writing, walking, and meditation.
Journaling, nature walks, and meditation (or other mindfulness practices).
Be mindful about your ____, ______ and _______.
Be mindful about your tone, connotation and choice of words.
This hypothetical example compares how a spouse’s good or bad day can affect this type of interaction.
The quality of their interaction—when they have a great day, the conversation is warm; when stressed, it may turn negative, demonstrating that their state isn’t about you.
A good response to a child who says “my friends are mean” is to ask these types of questions.
Open-ended, clarifying questions such as “What do you mean by mean?” or “Can you tell me more about what happened?”
Practicing this agreement helps you replace irrational beliefs with these.
Healthy thoughts and actions—by always doing your best, you reinforce positive patterns and beliefs about yourself.
This is the benefit of journaling about your spiritual journey.
It helps clarify your beliefs, track personal growth, and deepen your self-understanding over time.