Being A Good Sport & Dealing with Losing
What does it mean to be a good sport?
To keep things fun & friendly whether you win or lose a game or competition.
What does it mean to “apologize”?
To say sorry when you do something wrong, whether on accident or purpose.
What does it mean to start a conversation?
To talk to others by greeting them (e.g., “Hi” or “How are you?”).
What does it mean to end a conversation?
To stop talking (e.g., “Bye” or “Talk to you later!”).
Give 1 expected example of what the winner(s) & loser(s) of a game can say to each other.
Examples:
• “Congratulations!”
• “Good game!”
• “You played a good game!”
• “You’re getting a lot better at this game!”
• “I will get better with practice!”
When would it be necessary to apologize?
If you do any of the following:
• Physical behaviors (e.g., hitting)
• Verbal behaviors (e.g., name-calling)
• Accidental behaviors (e.g., bumping into someone)
• Not following rules & directions
Step #1 is to choose a person to talk to.
Name 1 person you could talk to at home, school, Sunfield, & Cub Scouts.
***Varying answers***
Step #1 is to decide why you need to end the conversation.
Name 1 potential reason when you’re at home, school, or elsewhere.
***Varying answers***
Name at least 1 of the 3 things you could do after losing a game.
1. Help with clean up
2. Do an activity you like
3. Use a coping tool to help with calming down
Name two ways you can apologize to someone.
1. Go up to the person & apologize to their face
2. Write the person an apology letter
Step #2 is to decide what you want to talk about.
Name at least 1 potential topic.
***Varying answers***
Step #2 is to decide what to say when trying to end a conversation.
Name 1 example.
Examples:
• “Can we talk at another time?”
• “Let’s talk at another time!”
• “Hey, I got to go ___!”
• “We’ll talk next time!”
Give 1 example of good self-talk that you can use whenever you lose a game.
Examples:
• “Everyone can’t win every single time!”
• “It’s okay that I didn’t win this time!”
• “I can try winning next time!”
• “There’s always next time!”
Give an example of a friendly apology.
Examples:
• “I’m sorry for …”
• “I was wrong for …”
• “Next time, I will …”
Step #3 is to choose a good time & place to talk.
Name 1 good time & place to talk.
• Home - During breakfast/lunch/dinner or "free time"
• School - During lunch & recess
Step #3 is to wait until the other person stops talking to end the conversation.
Name at least 1 good time to end a conversation.
***Varying answers***
Is it okay to lose a game?
Yes!
What types of facial/body cues & tone of voice should we display when apologizing?
• Facial cues - Making eye contact
• Body cues - Keeping our bodies to ourselves
• Tone of voice - Indoor voice & soft
Step #4 is to start talking in a friendly manner.
Model how to start a conversation in a friendly way.
***Varies***
Step #4 is to end the conversation in a friendly way.
Model how to end a conversation in a friendly versus unfriendly manner.
***Varies***