Hidden Rules
What is the definition of a hidden rule?
A rule that everybody knows, but isn't always written or spoken.
What is the definition of coping strategies?
Something you do to help you calm down, relieve stress
What is a quality of a good friend?
honest, kind, thoughtful, respectful, protective, etc
It's raining cats and dogs!
It's rainy very hard
What does the green zone mean?
You're focused, happy, ready-to-learn
What is an example of a hidden rule at school?
Don't sit in someone else's seat when a substitute comes
Don't sit on your desks
Don't stare at people
Don't pick our nose in class
What is an example of a coping strategy?
deep breaths, going on a walk, talking to trusted adult, counting, drawing, reading, thinking positive thoughts, listening to music, squeezing a stress ball, getting outside
How would you get an acquaintance to be your friend?
Be nice to them, share your interests, don't talk over them, ask them about their interests and genuinely listen to their response
I'm over the moon!
Super happy/excited
What does the blue zone mean?
You're tired, sad or not feeling well and maybe it is hard to concentrate.
What is an example of a hidden rule at a store?
Don't run in the aisles
Don't have races in the shopping carts
Don't climb shelves
Do you have to use the same coping strategy every time you get upset or stressed?
No
How would you ask a friend to do something with you outside of school?
Ask parents or ask them in school to see if they can go to the park, movies, come to your house, etc
She's feeling under the weather.
Feeling sick or unwell.
What is a strategy you could use to get back into the green zone when you are stuck in the yellow zone?
Ask to take a break, take deep breaths...get a drink of water...talk with an adult, use a fidget.
What is an example of a hidden rule when you are at a friend's house?
Don't go through their stuff
Don't go into their refrigerator without permission
Don't sleep in the jump on the parent's bed
Name a coping strategy you an use that no one would know you are using.
deep breathing, thinking positive thoughts, positive self talk, squeezing hands together under the desk, counting in your head, singing a song in your head
True or False....A good friend makes hurtful jokes about their friends.
false
I have your back!
Standing up for or supporting someone.
How do you feel when you're in the yellow zone?
Frustrated, anxious, annoyed, worried, silly
What is an example of a hidden rule in Mrs. Berkowitz's room?
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Talk about a time when you were upset and you used a coping strategy to help you calm down. What strategy did you use?
answers will vary
What would a good friend do if they saw their friend alone and crying?
Stop and ask if they were ok or needed help.
He got up on the wrong side of the bed.
Grouchy/grumpy
How do you feel when you are in the red zone and what strategy can you use to calm down.
Very angry, crying, yelling, screaming, hitting self or others, body is out of control.
Help stimulate your parasympathetic nervous system (calm yourself down), drink water, deep breaths, getting outside, talking to a trusted adult.