Hidden Rules
What is the definition of a hidden rule?
A rule that everybody knows, but isn't always written or spoken.
What is the definition of coping strategies?
Something you do to help you calm down, relieve stress
What are 3 qualities of a good friend?
honest, kind, thoughtful, respectful, protective, etc
What three (positive) words describe you the best?
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What is an example of a hidden rule at school?
Don't sit in someone else's seat when a substitute comes
Don't sit on your desks
Don't stare at people
Don't pick our nose in class
What is an example of a coping strategy?
deep breaths, going on a walk, talking to trusted adult, counting, drawing, reading, thinking positive thoughts, listening to music, squeezing a stress ball, getting outside
How would you get a classmate to be your friend?
Be nice to them, share your interests, don't talk over them, ask them about their interests, and genuinely listen to their response
Who are some adults at school you can go to if you need help?
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What is an example of a hidden rule at a store?
Don't run in the aisles
Don't have races in the shopping carts
Don't climb shelves
Do you have to use the same coping strategy every time you get upset or stressed?
No
How would you ask a friend to do something with you outside of school?
Ask parents first, then call or text or email the friend to see if they can go to the park, movies, come to your house, etc
What is a strategy you could use to change from feeling angry/sad to feeling calm or happy?
Ask to take a break, take deep breaths...get a drink of water...talk with an adult, use a fidget.
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What is an example of a hidden rule when you are at a friend's house?
Don't go through their stuff
Don't go into their refrigerator without permission
Don't sleep in the jump on the parent's bed
Name a coping strategy you an use that no one would know you are using.
deep breathing, thinking positive thoughts, positive self talk, squeezing hands together under the desk, counting in your head, singing a song in your head
True or False....A good friend makes hurtful jokes about you to others instead of telling you directly how you may have hurt their feelings.
false
How can you tell when you're in the feeling frustrated/anxious/worried?
headache from clenching jaw, sweaty palms, have a hard time paying attention in class, maybe you feel less patient, etc
What is an example of a hidden rule in the library
Greet teacher when you walk in
Use the book marks to save a books' place in the shelf
Don't take a book out of someone else's hand
Talk about a time when you were upset and you used a coping strategy to help you calm down. What strategy did you use?
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What would a good friend do if they hurt your feelings?
Stop and apologize. They could also tell you how they'll do things differently next time to avoid hurting your feelings again.
How would you know if a classmate was having a bad day?
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What advice would you give to a classmate if they were having a bad day?
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