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You are in the bathroom getting ready for your day. Pam hands you your toothbrush and says, "Come on, we have to get going!" You feel like you are being rushed and start to get annoyed. Instead of getting mad what can you say to Pam so she understands why you are feeling annoyed? What should Pam do in response to your great words?
I need more time OR I am not ready to visit?
I need more time.
Pam should tell you great job using your words to let her what you need. She should tell you she will be back in 2 minutes to check in and leave the area.
You are playing a trivia game. It's your turn to read but it's hard to see the words. You keep saying, "this really makes you think harder", over and over. Nobody says anything. What should you really say to get what you need?
I need help or I need space right now?
I need help
Angel starts asking you why you seem grumpy during session. You don't have answer. Instead of ignoring her or getting mad, what should you say to move on?
I want to talk about something else OR I got this?
I want to talk about something else
It's been one of those rough mornings. You feel like everyone is out to boss you around and make mad. Instead of yelling at mom for asking you what is wrong, what should you say ? What should mom do when tell her how you feel instead of muttering under your breath?
I got this OR I am feeling frustrated right now?
I am feeling frustrated right now?
Mom should praise you for using your words instead of getting mad. She can ask you how she can help you feel better.
Dinner plans get canceled because Erin has something she needs to do with her family last minute. Instead of getting mad what do you need to say to understand better.
Why did plans get canceled OR I need space?
Why did plans get canceled?
Mom asks you about your weight and if you are eating healthy, it makes to you feel embarrassed. What should you say instead of losing your cool? What should Mom do when you use your great words?
I want to talk about something else.
Mom should thank you for letting her know what you need and move on to another topic.
If you are in a terrible mood and don't feel like seeing anybody what should you say to people so they can understand? How should people respond to your great words?
I am not ready to visit right now OR I just need a second to think?
I am not ready to visit right now
People need to give you the space you asked for. They can leave the room or you can leave the room.
It's been a busy day and people are asking you to do A LOT. You’re starting to feel worn out and a little annoyed. Everyone is sitting around you and talking about you. What should you say to everyone to make them stop?
I need space right now OR I need more time?
I need space right now
You are cursing Pam out under your breath and she knows you are. What do you need to say to her instead of cursing? What should Pam do next?
I got this OR I am feeling frustrated right now?
I am feeling frustrated right now.
Pam should focus on praise your words (instead of pointing out that you are cursing at her) for letting her know you are frustrated INSTEAD of cursing under your breath, because it is hurtful to be cursed at. Pam could ask you if you would like space or something else to feel better.
Amie gets upset with you for saying mean things about someone you care about. You instantly feel like going off again. Instead of losing your cool, what should you say?
I want to talk about something else OR I need space
Your roommate keeps interrupting you when you are trying to talk and it feels really rude. Instead of yelling at your roommate what should you say to let her know you want to finish what you are saying? What should your roommate do next?
Can I please finish talking OR I am not ready to visit ?
Can I please finish talking?
Your roommate should apologize for interrupting and allow you to finishing talking.
You are tired this morning and moving slow. Pam says it's time to go back to your room and get dressed. You know what you need to do but having trouble getting motivated. Pam telling you what to do is making you feel bossed around. What can you say to Pam to get what you need so she doesn't keep asking you?
I need more time OR I got this?
I need more time
Pam should thank you for your using your words and stop asking you. She can give you space. If she needs to help you, she can use gestures to prompt next steps or hand you want you need without overwhelming you with more instructions or demands.
Erin/Lisa keeps asking you if you need help answering the Trivia question. You didn't ask for help, so it's really annoying that she keeps asking. What should you say instead of getting annoyed with her to trying to help?
I am not ready to visit OR I just need a second to think?
I just need a second to think?
Mom and dad tell you can't come over and spend the night tonight. You were really hoping you could spend some time with them don't understand why. Instead of getting upset with them, what should you ask them?
Why? OR I just need second to think?
Why?
You are having a bad day. What should you say to the to let people know what's going on with you instead of assuming they know?
I just need a second to think? OR I am feeling annoyed today.
I am feeling annoyed today.
Amie is pushing you to talk about why you yelled at Erin/Lisa. You are still super ticked off at the moment. Instead of going off on Amie for trying to understand, what should you say? What should Amie say ?
I am feeling frustrated right now or I need help?
I am feeling frustrated right now
"Thank you for letting me know you are frustrated. I understand. What can I do to help you feel better?"
It's your day to relax at home. All of the sudden mom and dad come over and tell you, you need to get dressed because you have a doctor's appointment. Instead of getting upset with the unexpected change of plans, what should you ask to understand what's happening?
Why do I have a doctor's appointment OR I need space right now?
Why do I have a doctor's appointment
You arrive at home from running errands all day. Your dad opens the car door for you and tries to take your hand to get out. You aren't ready to move yet. What should you say to dad ?
I need more time OR I am not ready to visit ?
I need more time
Mom comes over and noticed you re-organized and stacked a bunch of toilet paper rolls. She asks you why you took all of them out and did that? You start to feel angry and want to curse her out under your breath. What should you do instead?
Why are do you want to know? OR I need more time to get ready?
Why do you want to know?
Angel asks you what you did last weekend. You don't remember. What should you say to the person in the room who was with you last weekend?
I need space OR Could you help me ?
Could you help me ?
You are helping clean up around the house, dusting and vacuuming the living room. You can do all these things, but it's just taking a little while. What should you tell Amie when she asks you if you need help?
I got this or I am not ready to visit?
I got this!
You are on a nice stroll outside in your chair. The doctor says you need to walk when you can, so Amie tells you to start walking when you get to the stop sign up ahead. You start to feel really mad and start saying things under your breath. What should you say to let Amie know why you are upset? What should Amie do next?
This feels hard for me OR I am not ready to visit right now?
This feels hard for me
Amie should validate your feelings and honesty.She can ask you how she can help make it easier. Next Amie can compromise with you and ask what point you would like to try walking (a visual point on the road, or duration - walk in 3 minutes or 5 minutes and set a timer).
You are playing Jeopardy with Angel and Erin. You get a really hard question. You say, "this really tricky" over and over, but everyone just waits for you to answer, they don't know what you need. What should you say to get what you need?
I need space OR Can you help me?
Can you help me?
You can't reach the shirt you want to wear today. What should you say?
I need help
Instead of saying "this really makes you think" when you don't know an answer to a question, what should you say instead to be more effective?
I need help please OR I need space?
I need help please