Emotions
Are all emotions okay to experience/feel?
Yes! it is okay to feel all of our emotions, it is not okay to hurt ourselves, hurt others, or destroy things.
What is a coping skill?
Strategies/ways to help you manage difficult emotions or situations
What is inside the circle of control?
All of the things that we CAN control.
The more you have of it, the less you see
The darkness
Challenge and name this thought:
They didn't text me back, they must be mad at me.
Mind Reading:
Control thought: I don't actually know what they are thinking.
How do you know you're feeling angry?
(HINT: tell your face clues, body clues, or anger triggers)
List any face and body clues, body sensations, or triggers that make you angry
List 3 of your healthy coping skills
examples: deep breathing, TIPP skills, progressive muscle relaxation, talk it out, listen to music, use a different distraction, walk away, positive self-talk
True or false: we can control our own actions.
True - we are in control of our own actions and how we choose to respond or react
What belongs to you but other people use it more than you do?
Your name
If I fail this test, my life is ruined.
Catastrophizing;
Control thought: One test doesn't decide my future.
What is one emotion you find challenging when you feel it?
examples: sadness, anxiety/worry, anger, confusion, exclusion/isolation
What does the coping skill "positive self-talk" mean?
to say kind, helpful things to yourself
True or false: we can control what others think and say.
false - this is outside of our circle of control. We cannot control other people's thoughts and words.
What word is always pronounced wrong?
Wrong
If I'm not perfect, I'm a failure.
All-Or-Nothing
Control thought: Doing my best still counts
What is the opposite of anger?
contentment, relaxation, acceptance
True or false: Coping skills help to make feelings go away immediately and do not take time to work.
False: Coping skills are used to manage our feelings, not make them go away. It can take time to notice a change in how you feel when you use a skill. That's why we pay attention to our body and mind clues.
Do we focus on the things we CAN or CANNOT control?
We focus on the things that we CAN control.
What has 4 legs, 2 arms, and is not alive?
a chair
This ALWAYS happens to me
Overgeneralizing;
Control thought: This is one moment, not everything.
What happens if we don't handle our emotions in a healthy way?
We may get into trouble, feel guilt/shame or feel bad, we may hurt ourself or others, we may "explode"
What does an "unhealthy" coping skill mean?
a strategy/way to manage through a tough emotion or situation that is unsafe, hurtful or harmful to yourself or others, and is unhelpful
examples: hitting, saying mean things to others, negative self-talk (saying mean things to ourselves)
True or false-if we try hard enough we CAN control other people's actions and choices.
False; Things outside of our control will always be outside of our control - we cannot change them. If we try to change things outside of our control, it will make us mad, sad, frustrated, and set us up to fail.
What has an eye but can not see?
A needle
If someone is upset, it's my fault.
Control thought; I'm not responsible for everyone's feelings.