Emotional Literacy
Naming your emotion without blaming others is a sign of this.
What is emotional maturity?
They ask how you’d like to be supported when you’re upset.
What is a green flag?
They say they’re fine but act distant.
What is emotional avoidance?
They use anger to control or intimidate.
What is a red flag?
This model helps us understand what’s beneath a behavior.
What is the iceberg model?
This skill helps you pause before reacting in conflict.
What is self-regulation?
They take accountability without blaming others.
What is emotional responsibility?
They shut down during conflict and refuse to talk.
What is stonewalling?
They isolate you from friends and monitor your activity.
What is coercive control?
Yelling or blaming may stem from this deeper layer.
What is shame, trauma, or fear?
Feeling your emotions without judgment is part of this process.
What is emotional acceptance?
They respect your boundaries even when they disagree.
What is a sign of relational safety?
They apologize but repeat the same behavior.
What is inconsistent accountability?
They use guilt or shame to manipulate your choices.
What is emotional abuse?
Avoidance may be a survival strategy rooted in this.
What is past trauma or emotional neglect?
This term describes the ability to recognize emotions in others.
What is empathy?
They validate your feelings and listen without interrupting.
What is active listening?
This flag often signals fear of vulnerability or unresolved trauma.
What is a yellow flag?
They blame others for their emotional outbursts.
What is lack of accountability?
This cultural factor can shape how emotions are expressed or suppressed.
What is social conditioning or cultural norms?
This practice helps you understand the roots of your emotional triggers.
What is self-reflection or emotional mapping?
They own their mistakes and make a plan to change.
What is accountability?
They get defensive when receiving feedback.
What is a sign of emotional dysregulation?
They repeatedly violate your boundaries despite being told.
What is relational harm or abuse?
Beneath a red flag, you might find this unmet need.
What is the need for safety, connection, or control?