Emotions, Intro
This animal is used as a metaphor for our Emotional, reactionary, "Flash" intuition, gut feelings
What is the Elephant
If my 3 year old drops a teacup and it shatters, the cup cannot repair itself; we say that the cup is _____.
What is Fragile
Letting your feelings guide your interpretation of reality, "I feel depressed, therefore, this job is horrible"
What is Emotional Reasoning
An early human survival tactic, it evolved into a mechanism that produces both positive & divisive behavior, when people collect up
What is groupism (or tribalism)
This metaphor is used to represent out logic, "slow" critical thinking
What is the Rider
If my 3 yr old drops a his plastic cup, that cup does not shatter, but it does not change form. We say that the cup is ________.
What is Resilient
Focusing on another person as the SOURCE of your negative feelings, "My Boss causes all my problems..."
What is Blaming
The phenomenon when one group demonizes "outsiders"
What is in group-out group
Driver cuts me off on the highway, I assume he's rude. name another, more generous reason for his behavior
Heart attack, bathroom, baby-delivery, medical emergency... etc.
The Peanut Allergy story is an allegory about good intentions that have negative, unintended ________.
What are consequences
Focusing on the WORST possible outcome and seeing it as the MOST likely to happen, is a cognitive distortion called __________.
What is catastrophizing
The phenomenon in which member(s) of the group publicly highlights to other members that someone has violated rules, norms, conventions
What is the "Call Out" culture
Angry Coworker blames me for eating his BBQ out of the common fridge. I am a vegan. What could be another reason for the outburst?
Projection: under pressure, deadlines, doing poorly and knows it; feels 'in competition' with me; Definitely something else, some other issue with me
If you want to change behavior and appeal to the emotions, Learn to talk to the ____________
What is the Elephant
When you assume what people know without sufficient evidence of their thoughts, "My boss thinks my middle name is 'I Don't Know' !"
What is Mind Reading
A person publicly voices an opinion to demonstrate to other their own good, chaste character
What is Virtue Signaling
What doesn't kill you makes you weaker, Always Trust Your Feelings; Life = Good vs. Evil
These are known as the Three Great "_____"
What are the "Untruths"
After a Difficult discussion, Follow-Up is a gesture of _________.
What is sincerity
Focus almost exclusively on the bad things, as "No one in that office likes me, everyone is against me"
What is Negative Filtering
(bonus for Spotlight Effect)
Name 3 of the Seven Basic Plots of narratives
Overcoming the Monster, Rags to Riches, The Quest, Voyage and Return, Comedy, Tragedy, Rebirth