Self-Control
Having control over your brain and body.
Name three uncomfortable feelings.
Sad, mad, embarrassed, worried, scared, anxious, stressed, confused, guilty,....
Define friendship boundaries.
Invisible lines that separate respectful and fun actions from disrespectful and annoying actions.
2-3
You didn't complete your classwork by the end of the week. Name a consequence you might have.
No fun Friday, extra work to do over the weekend, your teacher is disappointed, your parents are upset, you didn't learn as much.
Your team lost the soccer game and you want to yell about it, but instead you choose to say "good game." Name a consequence you might have from making that chocie.
People will think you are a good sport, your coach/parents will feel happy, you will feel proud of yourself for making a good choice, you are showing good teamwork,...
Using a coping tool may not take away the uncomfortable feelings, but it can help us to feel a little better so we can make a helpful choice of how to move forward.
Give an example of someone crossing the pride boundary.
Bragging, one-upping, making someone feel bad for losing or not being good at something.
Give an example of a medium size problem that you might have at school.
Argument with a friend, having trouble understanding the math, feeling really sad most days, not sure how to make more friends, etc...
You are feeling overwhelmed in class. Name two coping tools you could try.
Take a break, get a drink of water, find 5 blue things, think of a happy memory, ask for help.
Name the three areas of self-control that we talked about.
Attention/focus, thinking before you act, and coping skills.
Using positive self-talk is a way to coach yourself through a situation. Give an example of a positive self-talk statement.
"I can do hard things."
"I can let this go."
"I am in control of my feelings."
Anthony is a little bit bigger than Avery. Lately Avery has been calling Anthony F3 for "favorite fat friend," and cracking up. Name the boundary that she crossed.
Joking (funny vs. mean)
At recess someone is being too rough during football. Name a solution you could use to solve the problem.
Use your words, play something else
A friend is being teased, you have two choices, you can say nothing or stand up for them. Name one consequence for each choice.
Say nothing: your friend is sad, teasing continues
Stand up for them: you're being an upstander, your friend is grateful, the teasing might stop.
Your friend dares you to do something unsafe. Name two things you can do instead of acting impulsively.
Say no, walk away, or ask an adult for help.
Someone is tapping on their desk while you are trying to finish your math problem set. Name the feeling and a coping tool that you can use.
Feeling: Annoyed
Coping tool: Deep breath, positive self-talk, use your words.
Give an example of how someone might cross the touch boundary at school, without hurting the other person.
Give an example of an apology.
I am sorry for_____________. Next time I will _________.
Name at least 3 DASH to Solutions strategies.
Ignore, apologize, tell how you feel, play something else, share and take turns, tell them to stop, wait and cool off, and walk away.
Kid President told us that there are four kinds of choices we can make when making choices. Name at least 2 of those choices.
*100 point bonus if you can name all 4!
Be impulsive, be a follower, do nothing, or be thoughtful.
When we did coping skits we practiced 8 different coping tools. Name at least 3 tools.
*100 point bonus if you can name at least 6.
Deep breathing, self-hug, stretch, think of a happy memory, positive self-talk, 5 blue things, take a break, and tense and relax muscles.
We learned 5 different boundaries, name at least 3 of those boundaries.
*100 point bonus if you can name all 5.
Touch, joking, pride, exclusion, and silly.
Give an example of an I-message (using all 3 parts).
I feel ___________when you ___________. Can you please____________.
Name three things you can do to help yourself make better choices every day.
Think before you act, use self-control, use coping skills, ask for help, think about consequences, be kind.