Healthy Relationships
What is COLLABORATING?
Working together with others
What are verbal boundaries?
The limits on what we share with others.
What are thinking errors?
Negative and inaccurate patterns of thinking, Negative and inaccurate thoughts about ourselves and our relationships with others
What is PERSPECTIVE?
A point of view or a particular way we see a situation
Name 2 coping skills.
Drawing, singing, dancing, playing sports, reading, going for a walk, talking to a friend or trusted adult, taking space, meditating, yoga....
What is a COMPROMISE?
When people work together to find a solution to a problem.
True or False: When meeting someone new, you should tell them everything about you including your favorite movies and the name of your counselor and the names of medications you take.
FALSE!!
How do we change our thinking errors?
Be aware! If you know what they are, you know what to look for. Challenge our negative thoughts!
Name one way you can try to look at a situation from someone else's perspective.
Try to think of how you would feel, Have there been any thinking errors or miscommunications? Is there evidence or facts that support one point of view?
Spell Mrs. C's last name
Chevalier!
True or False? Compromising means you get EVERYTHING you want.
FALSE!
What are the 3 criteria for bullying?
1. Unwanted aggression
2. Repeated
3. Power imbalance
Name two common thinking errors.
Black and White thinking, Unreal Deal, Filtering, Personalizing, Mind Reading, Overgeneralizing, Exaggerating, Fact vs. Feeling, Labeling, Can't Stand Its.
Joe was sitting at lunch with Anthony. Joe made a joke about Anthony’s t-shirt, which had a cartoon character on it. Anthony felt sad and told Joe. Joe was confused. Why do you think Anthony felt sad? Why do you think Joe was confused?
Anthony felt sad because he felt like his friend was making fun of him. Joe was confused because he thought he was making a joke about the character, not about his friend.
Name one GROUP EXPECTATION.
Be respectful, follow directions, stay in circle, use a conversational volume, stay on topic, use kind and positive language, one person speaks at a time, SSL, raised hand by group leader, find a coping skill before group, take space when asked or needed, ROAR!
How do you compromise?
Identify the problem, Identify possible solutions, Talk to the other person, Pick one solution you BOTH like
How do we show we are LISTENING?
Eyes are focused on the person speaking
Body is still
Mouth is quiet
Ears are ready to hear
Brain is thinking about what is being said
John had studied all week for his science test. He got an 80 on the test. John complained the rest of the day that he did horrible on his test and that science is his worst subject. What type of thinking error is this?
Black and White thinking
Billy walked into the classroom and his friends John and Jose started laughing. Billy yelled at John and Jose and they were shocked. Why did Billy yell and why was John and Jose shocked?
Billy yelled at John and Jose because he thought his friends were laughing at him. John and Jose were shocked because they were laughing at something else.
What does it mean to be MINDFUL?
Being mindful means being aware of what is going on in the present, not being focused on the past or the future.
Give one example of how to give feedback!
"I feel ____ when _____. Next time, please ______."
What is EMPATHY?
Empathy is recognizing the emotion someone is feeling or placing yourself in their shoes to understand their experience.
Mr. Kaija asked Bobby to check in with him at the end of class. Bobby refused and said, "I know what you're going to say and I don't want to talk about it. I didn't do it." What type of thinking error is this?
Mind reading!
Paul was hanging out with a group of friends. Whenever he started talking, his friend Peter would jump in the conversation and commenting on the story. This made Paul feel angry. Peter did not understand why. Why do you think Paul felt angry? Why do you think Peter was confused?
Paul was angry because Peter kept interrupting him. Peter was confused because he thought he was helping tell the story.
Name the 3 states of mind and EXPLAIN THEM!!
Emotion - all feelings based
Reasonable - all logic based
Wise - balance of both!