Boundaries
What are boundaries
They are a clear line (physical and emotional)
One of the mentees comes up and hugs you and you do not feel comfortable.
You tell them you would prefer a fist-bump
It is appropriate to take a mentee in your car?
no
Why are Boundaries there?
To maintain objectivity in the relationship
Tell them that you like them as a friend and that it will not work out
You are going out for lunch with a few friends, and your mentee does not have plans for the weekend. Can you invite them?
yes
What are some examples of appropriate and inappropriate boundaries?
Appropriate: Texting during the day, inviting them to group or one-on-one gatherings
Inappropriate: Late night texting, drinking/drugs WITH them
You are eating dinner at the y with one of the mentees. You both get pizza. After you sit down, you start eating but your mentee starts singing and dancing. What should you tell him?
Point out, "x, do you see anyone else doing this?" or remind him that his pizza may get cold. No need to be strict with him
Is it ok to mention alcohol?
Depends
What are some differences between teacher and mentor boundaries
Teacher boundaries tend to be more formal, while mentor boundaries are less formal
You see your mentee going out at night and you are also going out to a party. What should you do?
You should say "hi, how are you?" You could also check if he is doing ok.
Should you your mentee to a party in the evening
no