School
Throwing pencils in class.
Unexpected.
Leaving your toys on the ground.
Unexpected.
Coloring on the table.
Unexpected.
Saying "Happy Birthday" to the birthday boy or girl.
Expected.
How do expected behaviors make us feel?
Safe, comfortable, calm.
Saying mean things to another student.
Unexpected.
Helping clean up juice you just spilled.
Expected.
Crying when the menu doesn't have the food you wanted on it.
Unexpected.
Bringing a card or present for the birthday boy or girl.
Expected.
How do unexpected behaviors make us feel?
Unsafe, uncomfortable, nervous.
Saying "Good morning" to your teacher.
Expected.
Climbing on top of the refrigerator.
Unexpected.
Using an inside voice at the table.
Expected.
Saying, "I'm bored", at a birthday party.
Unexpected.
Tell me what you would do if you saw your friend fall during recess.
Got to them, help them up, get an adult if needed.
Laughing when your friend falls down during recess.
Unexpected.
Forgetting to feed your pet.
Unexpected.
Throwing food at your family.
Unexpected.
Crying because you didn't get a present.
Unexpected.
Tell me what you would do if someone hit you in class.
Tell your teacher or an adult, self-advocate ("don't do that").
Yelling in the classroom.
Unexpected.
Going to bed when your parents tell you to.
Expected.
Hiding under the table.
Unexpected.
Arriving to the birthday party on time.
Expected.
Tell me what would you do if you saw a friend crying.
Ask them what's wrong, hold their hand, ask if they need help.