Choices to Children from Love & Logic website article
What is, "maintain the control they do need."
When choices are given with _____ instead of ______.
What are, "empathy instead of anger."
Love and Logic step one
What is "empathy."
"Would you like to hear what the other kids have tried?"
What is, "an example of L&L step three."
Used regularly these three rules can prevent
What are, "power struggles."
A strong willed child loves
What is "control."
What turns choice into a threat largely depends on how it is _____ and ______ it is said.
What are, "how and when."
"How sad" and "I bet that hurts."
Love and Logic step four
What is, "Have the child state the consequences."
When taking good care of yourself, you inform your child what you are going to do rather than...
What is, "tell them what they will do."
One way a parent gives control when they don't need it is by
What is, "by giving lots of small choices when everything is going well."
"You're either going to pick up your toys or lose them!"
What is "a threat."
Love and Logic Step two
What is "send the power message."
"And how will that work?"
What is, "an example of Love and Logic step four."
When you provide options and alternatives, children can use their energy to control
What is, "their own lives."
Some parents sabotage their use of choices by turning them into
What is "threats."
"Would you rather get home at 10:00 p.m. or 10:30 p.m.?"
What is "a choice."
What is "An example of L&L step two, send the power message."
Love and Logic Step five.
What is, "Give permission for the child to either solve the problem or not solve the problem."
When you consistently follow through and allow their children to make their own choices, they start using their brains to weigh their choices and
What is, "are too busy thinking to argue with you."
Parents also turn the choices they give to children into threats by
If parents try to hoard control...
What is, "they end up losing it."
Love and Logic step three.
What is, "Offer Choices."
"Good luck I hope it works out!"
What is, "an example of L&L step 5."
The single most powerful tool for combating the tendency to be a helicopter parent or drill sergeant parent is to memorize the following:
What is, "Oh, no. That's got to feel ___________. What do you think you are going to do?"