Attention Seeking vs. Connection Seeking
Give an example of Attention Seeking/Connection Seeking behavior.
Fishing for compliments, Seeking sympathy from others, Acting as though they are unable to do something so someone can help them, Making impulsive decisions, Seeking instant gratification, etc.
What is Confirmation Bias?
Individuals subconsciously search for, interpret, favor, and recall information that confirms their pre-existing beliefs, while ignoring or discounting contradictory evidence.
When people are escalated, it often comes from feeling...?
Threat or fear. Even if threat is not real, past experiences may have wired brain to expect harm or danger.
False (sometimes anger is just anger)
What skill involves Inhale 4 seconds, Hold 4 seconds, Exhale 4 seconds, Hold 4 seconds?
Box Breathing
What is the perception of Attention Seeking behavior?
They are wanting to frustrate the people around them intentionally.
What is an example of Confirmation Bias related to an unreliable friend?
Focus on canceled plans and overlook dependable moments.
Are verbal or non-verbal cues more important when someone is escalated?
Non-verbal
List 3 emotions that could be hidden beneath the surface.
Grief, Distrust, Shame (related to self), Guilt (related to actions), Annoyed, Anxious, Disrespected, Disappointed, Worried, Hurt, Helpless, Insecure, etc.
What is the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique?
5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, 1 thing you can taste
What is the perception of Connection Seeking behavior?
They are in some type of emotional distress and aren’t sure how to solve the issue or comfort themselves.
Deeper Dive: Overcoming Bias - Why does seeking contradictory information help overcome this bias?
Creating a more balanced view, Having more information available to think critically and formulate response, etc.
What does Low and Slow refer to?
Keeping tone of our voice low, Keep speed of our voice slow (can also refer to body movements)
Deeper Dive: List 3 triggers to anger.
Overstimulated, HALT, Disrespect, Unmet expectations, Loud noises, No control, Grief, Criticized, etc.
What does TIPP stand for?
Temperature, Intense Exercise, Paced Breathing, Progressive Muscle Relaxation (TIPP)
Deeper Dive: What might be an emotional driver to Attention Seeking/Connection Seeking behaviors?
Low self-esteem, Fear of rejection, Loneliness, History of Emotional Neglect, etc.
Deeper Dive: How does Confirmation Bias affect prejudices?
Reinforcing biased views, and can lead to following stereotypes. (Ex. women are too emotional and men are not emotional enough)
What is the goal when a person is in distress?
Regulate emotions (Regulate over Educate)
Deeper Dive: List 3 physical signs of anger.
Sweating, Red face, Feeling hot, Clenched fists, Headache, Shaking, Rapid heart rate, Nausea, etc.
Deeper Dive: List 3 maladaptive coping skills.
Substance use, Overeating, Aggression, Avoidance, Denial, Rumination, Procrastination, etc.
Deeper Dive: How could these behaviors be addressed?
Exploring self-esteem, Learning self-soothing skills, Setting boundaries, etc.
Deeper Dive: What is a mindfulness practice that can help overcome Confirmation Bias?
Reflective thinking, Self-awareness, etc.
How long does it take the body to come back down to baseline after a perceived or actual threat?
20-30 minutes
Deeper Dive: What is Window of Tolerance?
Within your Window of Tolerance, you feel like you can deal with whatever is happening in life. Hyperarousal (anxious, stressed, angry, overwhelmed). Hypoarousal (zone out, numb, spacy, shut down).
Deeper Dive: List 2 barriers to utilizing coping skills.
Skill mastery, Ineffectiveness, Intensity of crisis, Difficulty with motivation, Access, Self-doubt, etc.