Conversation Drivers and Stoppers
If someone says "I have so much homework" and you say "I love hockey!"
Is this on-topic or off-topic? How do you know?
Off-topic. The topic was homework and you talked about hockey!
What does Conversation Share mean?
Conversation Share refers to the amount of time one spends talking during the conversation.
We should split the amount of time we talk 50/50.
Describe the RED and GREEN light on Conversation Stoplight.
When someone else is talking or about to talk, we have a red light, which means we wait and listen for clues.
When the other person has finished talking, we have the green light and it is our turn to talk.
When we walk over to a group, we use ______
and a _________.
When we walk over to a group, we use eye-contact
and a smile.
What does it mean to be flexible?
What does it mean to be rigid?
Flexible:
Rigid:
These are my new roller skates!
Make an on-topic comment
Ask an on-topic question
Comment: Cool! I like roller skating! Nice! That's awesome!
Question: Where did you get them? Where do you ride? Have you ever roller skated before? When will you use them? Who got them for you?
If someone says, "Hey what's up?" is our Measuring Cup filled a little or a lot?
A little! We should have a short response.
Define interrupting. What does it mean?
Why should we not interrupt?
o When people are talking, they should be able to finish what they are saying. If we talk when someone else is already speaking, that is interrupting.
If we interrupt them, they may feel upset, annoyed, or angry. They may not want to continue a conversation because they may feel that their thoughts and ideas are not important.
When we see a hear a group talking, we can make a comment or ask a question about the___________.
When we see a group playing, we can make a comment about what they are ___________.
When we see a hear a group talking, we can make a comment or ask a question about the topic.
When we see a group playing, we can make a comment about what they are playing/doing.
What does it mean to compromise?
Compromise means taking one part from everyone’s idea and putting them together to make both people happy.
Name 2 ways to show you are interested in the conversation (Conversation Driver)
- Nodding
- Watching the speaker
- Body language (e.g., eye contact, facing the speaker)
-Talk about the same topic
- Stay on topic using related comments and questions
- Share the conversation! (50/50 turns)
Role Play! When someone says "Tell me about your favorite sport!"
Should we have a short response or long response? Act it out!
Long response! This indicates that a person is interested in talking for a longer period of time. Our response should be longer and should fill the Conversation Measuring Cup up more.
Name 2 ways to appropriately get someone's attention.
- Say the person’s name
- Wait for a pause in a conversation before taking your turn to speak
- Wait for the person to make eye contact
- Raise your hand if you are in a classroom setting and want to be called on
- Keep your ideas in a “thinking bubble” until it is your turn to speak
What does it mean to READ THE ROOM?
Reading the Room means observing the room and the people in it to figure out how to act.
Name two qualities of a friend.
These are just some examples!
Person 1: "I am so excited for this weekend. I will go to Central Park!"
Person 2: "I just read a really awesome book. It was about dragons. The dragon was so cool and blew fire out of his mouth. The dragon flew over houses and mountains."
Is Person 2 Driving or Stopping the Conversation. How do you know?
1) off topic response
2) talking only about their interest
3) talking more than the other person (conversation share)
How do we know the right time to switch a topic? (Think of the surfer riding the wave)
- wait for a pause
- make sure no one is still talking about the topic.
- once the group has run out of things to say, it’s a good time to bring up something new to continue the conversation
- if the person you’re talking to doesn’t seem interested in the topic anymore
While waiting for a turn to speak, we can use self-talk to remind us not to interrupt. Name ONE phrase we can say to ourselves
· “I can keep my thoughts in my thought bubble until it is time to share”
· “I can wait my turn to talk”
How can we determine someone's mood when we READ THE ROOM?
We can use non-verbal language cues (facial expression, body language, and tone of voice) to help us Read the Room. Once you Read the Room, you can match your behavior to the situation or place.
What are two out of the four ways we can make and maintain friendships?
Was this an example of Conversation Drivers or Stoppers? How do you know?
Conversation Stopper!
- lack of eye-contact
- not showing interest (not answering)
How do we know if someone is NOT interested in the conversation, meaning we can change the topic?
- Your conversational partner stops answering, stops asking follow up questions, and/or stops making related comments.
- Your conversational partner walks away
- Non-verbal language cues:
o Facial expressions
o Eye movement
o Body language
Read this situation and tell what you would do. Lizzie wants to tell Matt about her new pet, but every time Lizzie tries, Matt starts talking over her.
How do you think this makes Lizzie feel?
She may feel upset, annoyed, or angry. She may not want to continue a conversation with Matt because she feels Matt thinks her thoughts and ideas are not important.
What is a social chameleon?
If we walk over to a group of kids reading under the tree, how would we be a social chameleon?
We should be a social chameleon, which means we can Blend In and adapt to any situation.
We can grab a book and read with them. We should match their behavior and mood by sitting quietly.
Name one thing you could share with someone when you meet them.
Answers will vary!Taylor's answers:
"Do you have any siblings?"
"I have a brother and a sister!"