Sportsmanship & Leadership
TRUE OR FALSE: Good sportsmanship is demonstrated through both words and actions.
True!
What does it mean to be Assertive?
Assertiveness means standing up for yourself politely and confidently. That means speaking up for what's right while still being respectful to others.
TRUE OR FALSE: If the first try to solve a problem with a friend doesn't work, you should take that as a sign that you're side is the right one
False: It may take multiple attempts at compromise to come up with a solution that works for both of you and that's okay! Listen to each other and keep working at it together
True or False: Everyone experiences some amount of stress (there is always some water in our beakers)
True! Stress is a common experience and is experienced by everyone. It becomes problematic when we become overwhelmed (our water level gets too high)
How does a rubber band resemble being resilient?
Like a rubber band, you can become "stretched out" and overwhelmed by stressful situations. When you are resilient you can be flexible and "bounce back" to your original shape
Give 3 of the 6 leadership behaviors
1. being proactive
2. communicating effectively
3. maintaining self-control
4. being a good role model
5. being a team player
6. giving compliments
Is this statement passive or assertive? Someone has taken your phone to look something up without asking. Even though you were using it, you did not say anything.
Passive. Not saying anything is a passive response to this situation.
Name two body language cues that might be a clue to how they are feeling. It can be a positive, negative, or neutral cue
- crossed arms
- smiling
- frowning
- eyebrow scrunch
- relaxed shoulders
- tearing eyes/crying
Demonstrate one way you calm your body down.
Belly Breathing, Deep breathing, five-finger breathing, yoga, etc.
What is Self-talk?
Self talk is when we listen to what we say to ourselves and others around us
Name one way good leadership could be demonstrated during free play time when one kid is either having trouble, is afraid of playing "bad, and is not participating/won't play
1. say “Good game” or "You're doing great, keep it up"
2. try your best to help that kid play better, give tips
3. say "it's okay, it's just a game, let's have fun!"
4. ask them what they like to play
True or false: If you want to play with a toy that your friend else is using, it's okay to say, "Can I please have a turn when you're done?"Is this statement true or false?
True! This is a polite and assertive way to ask for a turn
What is the first step to developing empathy?
Tuning in and listening closely to others is the first step in trying to understand how they feel
What is the beaker analogy for stress?
When stress levels increase, the water in our beaker rises. We may lose control if our beaker overflows, so we need to use strategies to manage our stress and keep our water from rising too high
True or False: Being passive is the best response to stressful situations because it means you don't let things bother you too much
False: A passive response is not the best response to stress.
A proactive response would be best.
Name one way you can demonstrate good sportsmanship after your team lost a game
1. congratulate the winning team/players
2. encourage your teammates with positive talk "We tried our best" or "We will win next time"
3. don't throw a fit or act unkindly
During a game at recess, Adam changed the rules so he could win. What can you say to assert yourself and make the game fair for everyone?
Possible answers:
"We didn't agree to those rules. Rules cannot be changed unless we all agree"
"These rules do seem to be fair"
"We have to make sure we all agree on the same rules for the game so it's fair to all"
What is the difference between having empathy and having sympathy for someone?
Empathy: "walking in another person's shoes" and trying to feel what they feel so you can better understand what they're experiencing. Having
Sympathy: feeling bad or sorry for someone else without trying to feel what they are feeling
Name 2 examples of how stress can make your body feel/react?
Sweaty hands, upset stomach, headache, tired, tense/tight, out of breath etc.
You got a bad or low grade in a class or assignment in school. How could you use proactive self-talk to keep a positive mindset when the next assignment/quiz/test comes around?
examples:
1. "That's okay! I will do better next time and I will get a better grade"
2. "It's only one bad grade and it's not the end of the world."
Your team just lost your final soccer game of the season and you're frustrated that others didn't play better. You begin yelling at teammates and kicking up dirt on the field. What is a proactive plan you can use to respond better to similar situations in the future?
Being proactive means coming up with a plan to control your emotions and use coping/relaxation strategies before acting on your feelings. You can also come up with strategies to communicate better on the field, but be sure to have a plan if a game doesn't end the way you would like it to
Give an example of an I-Statement
I feel...
When you...I
Please...
What can you say to check in and see if the person feels understood after they tell you something important?
Explain a time when your stress beaker was overflowing
what did you do to help reduce your stress?
Ex: Relaxation strategies, deep breathing, go on a walk
Define/describe proactive, passive, and reactive responses to a situation where your friend or family member is mean to you or upsets you.
reactive: when we allow emotions to take over and respond immediately to a situation (yelling, using bad language, being mean back to a person).
proactive: calming yourself with exercise (breathing), talking to a person, and expressing your feelings calmly.
passive: thinking about what happened over and over, not making any effort to talk about your feelings with friends/family, bottling/hiding emotions