Motivation
Discussion
Which response demonstrates Listening to Understand and which demonstrates Listening to React?
A. Well if you just would do X, Y and Z then you wouldn't be so stressed out
B. I hear that you're feeling overwhelmed, is there anything I can do to help you?
What is A. Listening to React
What is B. Listening to Understand
Identify this activity:
Anger is often the easiest emotion to display toward others, yet it masks deeper feelings such as disappointment, sadness or feeling overwhelmed.
Purpose: Recognize the more vulnerable emotions hidden underneath the surface
What is the anger iceberg?
Activity
Why did we do the body mapping exercise?
Reminder: Used worksheets to identify how our emotions are displayed physically in our body such as feeling sweaty when nervous or tension/pounding in your head when angry.
What is developing emotional awareness by identifying where in the body emotions manifest through physical symptoms
Activity
What was the purpose of perspective taking?
Reminder: Optical illusions
Ex1: Baby + lake scene
Ex2: A mans face + word "LIAR"
Ex3: Bird holding something in mouth + man in a canoe on island with hat
Ex4: Old woman + young girl
What is being open to hearing multiple interpretations while observing the same thing allowing for increased understanding and empathy towards other members point of view
Discussion
Noble Intent is the positive well-meaning motivation behind a family member’s behavior.
Ex1:
- Behavior: Sibling is nosy and asks a lot of personal questions.
- Noble Intent: Sibling cares about you & is worried
Ex2:
- Behavior: Parent makes you share your location with them.
- What is the noble intent?
What is they are being protective and trying to keep you safe from danger.
What was the purpose of the Back-to-Back drawing activity?
Reminder: Clx brought photos of geometric shapes and Halloween-themed photos. Each member took turns describing what they saw in the photos while other members drew without asking any questions
What is communication and active listening skills by listening to instructions and asking clarifying questions.
Activity
Describe what the 5-Senses Grounding Technique is
What is a grounding technique that slows racing thoughts and distract us from our noisy minds utilizing sight, sound, smell, touch, taste
Activity
What do you think the purpose of playing feelings charades (with the feelings wheel) was for?
What is identifying emotions through body language
Discussion
Reminder: Intention is the purpose of a person's actions. Impact is how that action makes the other person feel (how your actions were perceived by the other person.)
Ex: You make a joke with your friends, but they don't laugh at it. Your INTENTION was to be funny, but your IMPACT was you hurt his or her feelings.
Why is it important to learn about intention verses impact?
What is understanding the influence our words and actions have on other's feelings.
Activity
Why did we play Uno focused around boundaries and safety planning?
Reminder: Prompts included sharing a time you engaged in an unsafe behavior (mom reporting walking alone at night in the past), and identifying family safety rules (sharing location & always having a person to keep you company when out in public)
What is identifying unsafe behaviors, reducing risk and/or increasing honest and open communication
Activity
Describe Categories grounding technique
What is picking a category to focus on for a certain amount of time to ground us in the present moment.
Activity
What was one thing you took away from the love languages exercise?
What is no wrong answer :)
Discussion
Definition
Reframe: Change meaning behind negative behaviors.
Ex1:
Behavior: Family member becomes very loud and starts to yell during conversation
Reframe: Family member is fighting to have his or her voice heard.
Ex2:
Behavior: An interaction between family members starts to escalate. One of the members gets up and walks away to his or her room before the conversation is finished shutting down the conversation.
Reframe:
What is an Open Discussion! :) There is no right or wrong answer
Activity
Which sentence below accurately reflects an "I" statement?
A. You never clean up after yourself.
B. You are so annoying.
C. I feel unheard when I don't get a chance to finish my thoughts because it seems like my ideas and opinions don't matter.
What is C. I feel unheard when I don't get a chance to finish my thoughts because it seems like my ideas and opinions don't matter.
"I feel" (emotion) "when"(situation/behavior) "because" (reason why) ...
Activity
Did you notice anything in your body when practicing progressive muscle relaxation?
What is All Answers Welcome! (:
Discussion
Definitions
Help – problem-solving. Focused on finding a solution.
Hear – Actively listen and validate feelings
Hug – Provide comfort or reassurance (physical or emotional), respecting boundaries.
Scenario: Amy comes home from school upset because she had an argument with her boyfriend.
Which responses are reflective of help, hear or hug?
Response #1
Parent: “Amy, it seems like something happened at school today. Do you want some help talking through it?”
Response #2
Parent: “Do you want a hug?”
Amy: “Yes, I do.”
Response#3
Amy: “My boyfriend was yelling at me, and I felt really sad."
Parent: “I hear you. That must have hurt a lot, especially with someone you care about so deeply.”
What is response #1 = Help, What is response #2 = Hug, What is response #3 = Hear
Activity
Rewrite the sentences below utilizing the "I" Statement formula
"I feel" (emotion) "when"(situation/behavior) "because" (reason why) ...
1. You never listen to me.
2. You always leave your clothes on the floor.
What is any "I" statement sentence you choose!
Here are some example responses
1. I feel ignored when I try to communicate my feelings to you because my thoughts don't matter.
2. I feel stressed when I see messes because it adds more work to my plate.
What skill could you practice to self regulate?
what is whichever one works best for you!