Communication
What is this communication tool?
I feel...
I want....
I was affected in this way...
"I" statements
What is defined by:
excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support on account of an illness or addiction.
Codependency
This Character Role is defined by:
This is the “good” and “responsible” child. This person is a high achiever, carries the pride of the family, and he/she overcompensates to avoid looking or feeling inadequate. He/she is often a good leader and organizer, and is goal-oriented and self-disciplined. Sometimes the hero lacks the ability to play, relax, follow others, or allow others to be right.
Hero
Take _________ day at a time
One
Who is the proud dog momma of Lady Bug?
Brooke
This useful skill is defined by:
Being prepared to discuss solutions that work for both of you. Seeking a solution that has mutual gain. Don’t declare ultimatums or dismiss others ideas
Compromise
This is defined by:
- not acknowledging or refusing the existence of a problem
- minimizing or rationalizing a problem
- admitting its a problem but fail to acknowledge its consequences
- Refusal to get help despite recognizing the full extent of the problem
Denial
This character role:
The lost child is the subservient good child. He/she is obedient, passive, and hidden in the family trauma. He/she stays hidden to avoid being a problem. Generally, this person is flexible and easygoing. However, he/she lacks direction, is fearful in making decisions, and follows without questioning.
Lost Child
What is the principal behind step 1
Honesty
Who just got off vacation?
James
What communication tool uses:
Open body posture and eye contact.
Paraphrasing and summarizing.
Reflecting Feelings
Asking Clarifying questions.
Active Listening
What are the 3 C's?
You didn't cause it
You can not control it
You can't cure it
This character role is defined by:
The clown uses humor to offset the family conflict and to create a sense that things are okay. This person has a talent to readily lighten the moment but he/she hides his/her true feelings.
Clown / Mascot
Progress not ____________________
Perfection
Who has seen more than 10 grateful dead concerts?
Eileen
what communication trap is defined by:
To suggest what your wants or needs are indirectly.
Hinting
This is defined by:
the physical, emotional and mental limits we establish to protect ourselves from being manipulated, used, or violated by others.
Personal Boundaries
This is the person the other family members feel needs the most help. Usually this is the family member in need of treatment or in treatment. This person often shows the obvious symptoms of the family being unable to work through problems. The person may have strengths such as a sense of humor, a greater level of honesty, and the willingness to be close to his/her feelings. Yet there can also be an inappropriate expression of feelings, and the person may experience social or emotional problems.
Scapegoat
What column in a moral inventory established our part in the resentment. It identifies what ways we were responsible for holding/contributing to an resentment
4
Who went to outpatient at the right step as a teenager?
Nick
What type of communication:
- Try to dominate others
- use humiliation to control others criticize, blame, or attack others
- have low frustration tolerance
- speak in a loud, demanding, and overbearing voice
- not listen well
- have piercing eye contact and an overbearing posture
Aggressive Communication
What type of communication.
- not allow others to abuse or manipulate them
- state needs and wants clearly, appropriately, and respectfully
- communicate respect for others
- listen well without interrupting
- speak in a calm and clear tone of voice
Assertive Communication
The rescuer takes care of others’ needs and emotions and problem-solves for others in the family. The rescuer might have difficulty with conflict. He/she takes on the role of rescuer in the name of helping others, though it is often to meet his/her own needs, such as relieving anxiety. This person doesn’t realize that sometimes helping hurts. He/she also lives with a lot of guilt and finds it challenging to focus on him/herself.
Rescuer/Enabler
What are the big 5?
Go to meetings
Call Sponsor / Fellowship
Read Big Book / Do Step Work
Meditation / Prayer
Service to others
Which TAFS staff is a graduate of TAFS?
Andrew S.