Communication
INTENTION is what a person may think or feel during an action or conversation.
VERSES
IMPACT Refers to how that behavior makes the other person feel. This is how your actions were perceived by the other person.
Ex: You make a joke with your friends, but they don't laugh at it. Your INTENTION was to be funny, but your IMPACT was you hurt his or her feelings.
Why do you think it's important to learn about INTENTION v. IMPACT?
What is understanding the influence our words, actions, and behaviors have on other people
The anger iceberg activity identified anger as the easiest emotion to recognize in others yet it masks deeper feelings like disappointment, shame, overwhelm, hunger, embarrassment, disrespect etc
What was the purpose for this activity?
What is recognizing that anger often masks deeper emotions. The activity helps to increase awareness of emotional triggers and reduce reactive responses during conflict.
Describe the 5-Senses Grounding Technique
What is the Grounding technique that utilizes Sight, Sound, Smell, Touch, Taste (Alternative option: can substitute for Colors and/or Shapes as well) to slow down racing thoughts and reduce anxiety by anchoring the mind in the present moment
Select the response that best demonstrates Listening to Understand verses Listening to React?
A. Well if you just would do X, Y, and Z then you wouldn't be so stressed out
B. I hear that you're feeling overwhelmed, is there anything I can do to better support you?
What is A. Listening to React
What is B. Listening to Understand
In the Back-to-Back drawing activity, you both took turns as "the speaker" & "the listener." The speaker described (in detail) a photograph of geometric shapes as well as different categories like holidays, food, animals, etc while the listener drew out what the speaker said without asking any questions.
What was the purpose of the this activity?
What is highlighting the importance of active listening and listening to clear, concise instructions to reduce misunderstandings
Describe the Categories grounding technique
Ex: Fruits & Veggies, Dog Breeds, Countries, Celebrities
What is choosing a category to focus on for a specific time frame to reduce anxious and distress thoughts by focusing on the here and now
Noble Intent is the positive well-meaning motivation behind a family member’s behavior.
Ex1:
- Behavior: Mom is setting limits on what Emma want's to wear.
- Noble Intent: Mom is protecting Emma from exposure to developmentally inappropriate things by safeguarding your innocence
Try these below:
1) Behavior: Emma's repeated questioning about the same task or event
- What is the noble intent?
2) Behavior: Emma telling mom she hates her
- What is the noble intent?
1) What is your best guess!
Possible option for answer:
What is looking for reassurance linked to feeling emotionally secure about a decision or choice
2) Emma experiencing feelings of shame and embarrassment, and displaying it through anger toward mom (dressing room event)
What do you think the purpose of playing Feelings Charades (utilizing the feelings wheel) was intended to teach?
What is identifying whether our body language accurately reflects our emotions and how those emotions may be perceived by others without verbal communication
What skill could you practice to self regulate your emotions?
What is whichever one works best for you!
What is one thing you have learned about yourself and/or each other since beginning FFT?
What is any answer you provide!
Select which sentence below accurately reflects an "I" statement:
A. You never listen to me.
B. I feel unheard when I don't get a chance to finish my thoughts because it makes me feel like I don't matter to you.
C. You are so annoying.
What is B. I feel unheard when I don't get a chance to finish my thoughts because it makes me feel like my voice and opinion are not important.
"I feel" (emotion) "when"(situation/behavior) "because" (reason why) ...
Remember the optical illusions listed below:
Ex1: Baby + lake scene
Ex2: Face + word "LIAR"
Ex3: Bird holding something in mouth + man in a canoe on island (i.e. Coy fish, Sombrero)
Ex4: Old woman + young girl
What was the purpose behind this exercise?
What is with no right or wrong answer, this activity helps family members develop empathy and understanding of one another's thoughts, feelings, and experiences by exploring different interpretations of the same image.
What helps each of you to feel heard and understood?
What is any answer you provide!
Potential responses: What is active listening, not interrupting, listening to understand instead of listening to react, following through when making a commitment (ex: cleaning up)
Rewrite the sentences below utilizing the "I" Statement formula
"I feel" (emotion) "when"(situation/behavior) "because" (reason why) ...
1. You never listen to me.
2. You always leave your clothes on the floor.
What is any "I" statement sentence you choose!
Here are some example responses
1. I feel ignored when I try to communicate my feelings to you because my perspective isn't valued.
2. I feel stressed when I see messes because it adds more work to my plate.
In Summary, the skills taught throughout FFT included:
- Communication
- Feelings Identification
- Emotional Regulation
- Perspective Taking
What is one thing you found to be the most beneficial from FFT therapy? OR one thing that you found not to be effective overall?
What is your own insight and reflection!